PLAIN ol' SEX vs. MAKING LOVE

Angie - posted on 08/11/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )

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OK, so I'm going off this porn thing. Do you think there is a difference HAVING SEX or F-ing or SCREWING is completely different from making love?!??!?!?!
I do...before I met my husband, I screwed...sometimes my husband and I still screw when things aren't just clicking... :) hahahaha...
But for the most part we make LOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE! :)
What do you think???
Do you think there is a line to cross...whats normal and what isn't?!?!?!?!?!??!
For instance...I don't let him "gay screw" (Sorry for my nickname I call it). This anal for those of you who don't speak my language :).

My husband worked at a coal mine, where there was a lot of oral sex going around...Yes they were married, but didn't consider it cheating when they aren't actually sticking it in their HOO HA. :)
What are you thoughts...I still think its cheating!

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Ashley - posted on 08/31/2011

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We are both... I love when we have time to make love but usually we just go for the O and were done ;)

User - posted on 08/25/2011

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making love for me is when i look into the eyes of my husband,making sex for me its playing.we do every thing in sex.we are togheter 7 years and 3 kids but yhe sex is going from better to better

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Sarah - posted on 05/26/2012

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when i am with someone i love, i screw, f**** and have sex, but their is always the love making element,
If i have had casual or one niters it has been just screwing f*** or sex without the love element.

s for the cheating, suppose it is each to their own thoughts about that. oral sex can be more intimate than normal sex for me at times
some years ago, i was in a serious relationship and one xmas their was l to full kissing others under the mistletoe. I didnt look at it as cheating. was fun tho was even more sexy after we got alone and had been watching each other kissing others fully

User - posted on 08/25/2011

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i think some of us are cheating with the mind and some of us are cheating with the body,well i think its always cheating

Charlie - posted on 08/12/2009

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Oh definitely , emotional cheating is just as bad and often leads to physical cheating !!

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Yes, any sexual contact with another person is cheating as far as I'm concerned. Yes, there is a difference between types of lovemaking. I find that you have to give and take. There are times when hubby wants a whole shebang and I'm like, "Let's just have a tumble and go to sleep." Other times we go all out with the candles and taking our time. I think it's important to be flexible (no pun intended... but hey, if it fits). If you get in your mind that it has to be a certain way every time then what tends to happen is that NOTHING happens. If you are willing to adjust to changing situations, time schedules and comfort levels you get a lot more "action". haha

Angie - posted on 08/12/2009

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I agree!!! The guys at the coal are usually like high school students...actually now that I think about it, I think there are a lot of guys running around with the high school mentality. :) I also believe in Emotional cheating. By this I mean you can have meaningful conversation with your girlfriends...but if you want a man in the picture telling you most inner deep secrets...I believe it should be your husband. What do you think?

Johnny - posted on 08/11/2009

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Thanks Jenn! Glad the days of censorship are over :)

I'd say we "make love" rarely. We screw all the time, but love making requires time to make a deeper connection and really touch one another (not just physically). Actually, there's been a few times where we've "made love" without ever having intercourse. With work, baby, renovating our house, our volunteer work, we really don't have any time anymore for long evenings of passion. But a good screw is still important, it's that special thing you share with only your partner, even if it's just knockin' boots.

And yes, oral is cheating. Duh! The whole idea that it isn't sex sounds like something a bunch of high school guys made up to get fellated in the back of the school bus. Though to o me, the thing about cheating is doing any intimate act with another without consent of your spouse or partner. It doesn't matter what that act is, from kissing to full intercourse, it is wrong to betray your SO.

Charlie - posted on 08/11/2009

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Oh i would consider a kiss cheating !! let alone anything else .

i am pretty adventurous in the bedroom ( with my fiance )so whats normal to me is probably not to someone else

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I dont think I have met anyone who couldnt tell the difference between sex and making love (at least once they had experienced both)! There is a definate connection inlove making that is not really (if at all) there for the sex.



I think having such a narrow definition of sex (only involving the HOO HA) is just a convenience for those that wish to seek gratification outside of their relationship. Having said that it is only cheating if that is the terms they have negotiated in their relationships (for us that is definately cheating but I know other couples who have different boundaries they have BOTH agreed on)

Charlie - posted on 08/11/2009

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a f@^k is primal intercourse , love making is soulful intercourse and screwing is emotionless , non connective mentally intercourse in my book .

both primal and lovemaking are fantastic .

Deanne - posted on 08/11/2009

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Yes it's different but as long as you & your partner are in the same frame of mind! All types of sex is good depending on your mood... & yes, oral sex is cheating! Kissing - I don't class it as cheating, just depending how it came about....

~Jennifer - posted on 08/11/2009

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Quoting Angie:

PLAIN ol' SEX vs. MAKING LOVE

OK, so I'm going off this porn thing. Do you think there is a difference HAVING SEX or F-ing or SCREWING is completely different from making love?!??!?!?!
I do...before I met my husband, I screwed...sometimes my husband and I still screw when things aren't just clicking... :) hahahaha...
But for the most part we make LOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE! :)
What do you think???
Do you think there is a line to cross...whats normal and what isn't?!?!?!?!?!??!
For instance...I don't let him "gay screw" (Sorry for my nickname I call it). This anal for those of you who don't speak my language :).

My husband worked at a coal mine, where there was a lot of oral sex going around...Yes they were married, but didn't consider it cheating when they aren't actually sticking it in their HOO HA. :)
What are you thoughts...I still think its cheating!


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BIG difference.
if your luck as a couple you get to do both haha.
we all need a good hard screw every now and again... but i know my fiance is the only person ive ever made love to.

and yeah, oral is cheating... so is kissing in my books!

Malinda - posted on 08/11/2009

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I've always thought there were three kinds of sex: screwing, f-ing, and making love. They all have their place. Screwing is the quicky or the detached get-your-rocks-off moments. F-ing is more intense, has a connection, but not necessarily a deep emotional one. It's more primal and animalistic. Making love involves a deep emotional connection and for me is often done looking one another in the eye. My husband and I do all three, but I will be the first to say that it probably happens in that order of frequency (s, f, m). Making Love is rare, but then it's deep enough that maybe it should be.



There is a great book called Passionate Marriage that goes into the emotions of sex and how it can be done in marriage without being monotonous. I highly recommend it.



And yeah.... oral is totally cheating! ANYTHING that you don't think your spouse would just be cool with or would feel the need to lie about is cheating....

Michelle - posted on 08/11/2009

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I agree there is a difference! Sometimes you do what ya gotta do!! For the most part we make love though!

Isobel - posted on 08/11/2009

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I think there is a time and place for everything :) and yes..oral is still cheating HOO HA or none

Sharon - posted on 08/11/2009

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i would say around here its mostly screwing. We don't have a lot of time for romance and making love - to me making love is taking your time, teasing, etc. Screwing is you're already horny and you just get to it. Scratch that itch and go to sleep.

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