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Dove - posted on 03/06/2017

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My ex friend's (long story... not part of my post) son has autism... and most of his friends are 'typical'. You don't need special friends for your daughter simply because she was rejected by a particular person. If she is having trouble making ANY friends... perhaps some counseling can help her learn coping skills and how to make friends on her own in spite of any challenges she faces.

12 is far too old for you to be finding friends FOR her... but it is fine for you to seek help (like the counseling) to make it easier for her to find her OWN friends.

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Sarah - posted on 03/06/2017

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I have to agree. It isn't really fair to assume all typical kids will shun your daughter. However, I do understand your desire to protect her and to help her make friends. Does your daughter have any special interests? If yes, you could look into a class or club that involves kids with similar interests. Ev gives a good idea about checking into a support group. If there is a special needs community in your school district, maybe you can get to know some of the families that way. At 12, girls don't always have or need a bunch of friends. Some are content to have just one, or even spend time away from their peer group. Another option would be a church group, you may find kids with a more willing spirit than you have encountered thus far.
Does your daughter tell you that she wants to make new friends?

Ev - posted on 03/06/2017

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I have read the posts and not all kids are like the one that said that she could not be friend with your daughter. You are giving up because one typical child said this. There are more kids out there that are more understanding than you think. My kids are two of those kind but unfortunately they are both adults now. My daughter is now raising two children who have a grandfather who is deaf. My son has a form of Autism. But he also learned about others with disabilities too. He was kinda surprised when he learned his sister's father inlaw was deaf. But now, they are great friends. My son loves her inlaws as if they were his. After finding out my son had this I did not treat him any differently than I did his sister who was not. I might have changed how I handled certain things with him but he still learned that thee was a right way to do things and a wrong way to do things. He also learned he had good observational skills.

You can not keep your daughter away from typical people forever. She is going to have to eventually enter a world that she is going to have to learn to manuver in. If you do not allow her to be around normal or typical kids you are taking away an important and fundamental part of life. She is not always going to be surrounded by those like her. I am not sure how mild or moderate or severe her issues are---but she is going to need to learn now to deal with life if she is capable. If her situation is more than moderate--then I could see that she may have issues working in groups of normal people but she needs the change to learn how.

Michelle - posted on 03/05/2017

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Not all children are like that.
You didn't mention any of that in your original post so what you have been saying IS confusing.
Are there any support groups in your area? If you really are wanting another child with special needs then that would be the best place to start.
Like I said, this is an international site so finding someone in your area is very difficult. For instance, I'm in Australia.

Stacy - posted on 03/05/2017

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I am making sense. A typical girl without special needs such as autism and ADHD. Didn't like what my daughter was saying and didn't want to understand my daughter didn't mean it. I feel finding a friend with the same needs as her is all she needs. I am not giving up. This is my last post

Michelle - posted on 03/05/2017

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So what are your daughter's special needs?
Has it just been 1 girl say she can't be friends?
You really aren't making much sense.

Stacy - posted on 03/05/2017

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I am talking about play dates my daughter needs a friend who shares the same special need as her cause a typical girl told her she can't be friends with my daughter I am from Bucks County pa

Michelle - posted on 03/04/2017

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12 is a bit old for "playdates". Does she have any friends at school? What about in the neighbourhood?
You have even said where you live, this is an international forum so a general indication of where you live would be helpful.

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