Playdate question

Brandi - posted on 01/29/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My son who is in kindergarten recently had a playdate that I went along on and now it's time to reciprocate. I'm more than happy to have the mom over , but would it be rude to give her the option of either coming along or just letting her son come home from school with us? I went to her house for the playdate because I thought that's what she wanted, but it seems she's had other kids over without the parents. It seems to be the norm here to just send the kids alone on playdates initially. Like I said, just don't know if that option comes across as rude? Still trying to figure out all this playdate stuff.

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Katherine - posted on 01/29/2012

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I know, play date etiquette is hard to learn, who would have thunk?

I agree with Little Miss. Give her the choice, I'm sure it won't offend her. In fact it will probably make her feel more comfortable. But you also have to remember if you guys stay then YOU can build a friendship too.

Brandi - posted on 01/29/2012

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Thanks so much for your input. Like I said , I did go along on my sons playdate at her house because I wasn't really sure that it was a drop off , although I would have been fine with it. I didn't seem to think it was rude to give her the option of staying for the playdate or having her son come home with us, but at the sametime i didn't want to offend her.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/29/2012

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That is absolutely a fantastic idea. Doing it on a Friday so she does not need to deal with hurrying home to get on schedule would be my advice. You can give her the option. At first, she may want to go to your house on a weekend to see how your home is and how you deal with the children. Don't take offense if she would rather a weekend. Later on, if you offer again, she may jump at the chance. It does not come across as rude. But, you don't have to wait to offer to have the child come over until your next childs play date over her house.



I am starting play dates also. We had one last Sunday, and now it is her chance to have me over. I know how much fun my son had, and I am not gonna just wait until she invites us, I will invite them over again in another week. I will also let my son chose another class mate he may want over first. I want my home to be open to his friends, and have him comfortable asking if friends can come over. It is an important social skill.

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