Please discipline YOUR CHILD!!

Devetta - posted on 01/14/2016 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I have a relative that recently adopted 2 children boy 6and girl 4,we enjoy getting together cooking and having dinner at our homes however, their children are getting annoying. They walk in and it's constant chaos.They running up stairs to bedrooms start opening dresser drawing clothes everywhere,I happen to be in the shower and next thing the shower curtain flies open and I'm being bombarded with 20 questions,all recyclers are being opened,jumping on beds,and 4 yr old climbs on dinner table sticking her fingers in all food,caseroles,and even other people's plates. Who wants to hold your plate and try and eat just so she won't stick her fingers in your food and have free rein to crawl all over the dinner table??!! Their parents walk in sit down and let them run wild. All they say is," they are so curious,they like exploring",or " you silly goose" The 4 yr old even "told" that I shut the door on her when I got out of the shower (so I could dress) and I could hear her say," "she shut the door on me!" Oh and boy they were all over that almost shocked that I would do that. I love them all dearly but,how do I go about saying something without offending them and not crossing boundaries? I underatand children have alot of energy,and are naturally curious,kids need to be kids but goodness gracious! I have grown children and honestly if they done some of those things it would not fly with me,they knew not to even think about doing some of those things.Please help I need some advice.

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Michelle - posted on 01/15/2016

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You have every right to set the boundaries in your home and tell the children off if they are running amok.
Maybe the parents need to see someone setting boundaries for the children for it to sink in to them that they actually need to raise the children, not let them raise themselves.

Dove - posted on 01/15/2016

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I think I take back my earlier advice. I think those kids should be in your house MORE (if you can tolerate it) and you can go right ahead and set limits and boundaries on their behavior in your home. I think they would greatly benefit from learning that someone cares about them enough to lovingly stop them from being little monsters.

If the parents don't like it... they'd be getting an earful on what they are doing to those innocent kids.

I don't know for sure though... I just can see that SOMEONE needs to be there for those kids.

Sarah - posted on 01/15/2016

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Maybe you need to get in contact with the agency that placed the children. Sounds like this is something they need to know.

Dove - posted on 01/14/2016

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Definitely time to not have them in your house anymore. Maybe you can visit them at a park or somewhere that the kids can be running wild instead of in your home. I'd tell them the truth if asked. Those kids may be acting out due to whatever emotional turmoil occurred from the adoption process, but they NEED boundaries. Every child does.

Michelle - posted on 01/14/2016

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I wouldn't be inviting them to your house at all.
If it starts to be questioned, you can be honest and say the kids don't respect your things.
I wouldn't worry about offending them, they sound like they need a reality check and I think it's better coming from family.

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Devetta - posted on 01/15/2016

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I agree,because the older they get the harder it's going to be. I feel like saying to the parents STOP-Stop the arguing, fussing ,be quiet and pay attention to your children. Put the energy and time toward them .I can tell you this when they come over to my home its coming to a halt they are going to know it's not ok.

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