Alissa - posted on 06/17/2012 ( 15 moms have responded )
My 18-year-old son just graduated high school (barely). He was going to go into the Marines, but changed his mind at the last minute because of anxiety. Now he is going to college in the fall. He has started not coming home, staying gone for days at a time. He spent all of his graduation money on tattoos. He is fine living off his friends. He has tried to find a job, but to no avail, and only after a lot of prodding from us. He also hasn't tried really hard. He is content to play video games at his friend's house and slept till noon every day. He did go register for his college classes on his own and his friends are all good boys who stay out of trouble. I just don't know what to do about him not wanting to come home. We haven't given him any money, other than what he earns cutting grass, which we have to force him to come do so that he will have some money. He has offered to give us his cell phone too since we have complained that he needed a job. We don't have much leverage is what I am trying to convey. Other than gas money and cell phone payments, we don't have anything else to hold over him. I am fine with him staying over there for a night or two, but he should come home to eat and shower since he has no money and it isn't the friend's mom's responsibility to feed him and wash his clothes. Every time we talk, we end up in a huge fight. Suggestions? I want to make him go to church, find a job, etc., but he seems happy with things as they are and he resents my trying to make him do the right thing.