Carole - posted on 02/10/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
I have loved my 12-year-old stepdaughter and doted on her for most of her life. I did something several months ago now to bring her mother and her closer together (previously I handled nearly all after-school activities, etc. and we were together a LOT and she always wanted to be with me), and now she really isn't interested in being around me but prefers her mother (who has always loved her and been solidly half her life, just not particularly present in her daily activities). Someone please just tell me I did the right thing and that she will be a happier kid and adult now and won't forget me completely :)
I know it's selfish to feel this way. I'm trying not to and I'm happy to miss her if it makes her a happier better person in the end so all you bio-mothers out there please don't hate the stepmother on this one - she's just sad.