please help

Lebo - posted on 08/05/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )




i have changed my child's surname without the father knowing about it, we were never legally married and we are no longer together, he does not know yet but the child stays with him, he is thinking of taking our son to visit his family in from here in south africa to ghana, will the id number of the child reveal this new change in the surname at the airport for checking in or not? does the international airport (ORT) have the home affairs database?


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Dove - posted on 08/05/2012




I have no idea what the laws are in your country, but they have to have lawyers (or whatever you would call them there), right? You need to get one. I'm sure that's not helpful advice since if you are homeless right now you probably don't have the money for one and I have no idea if your country has any programs to help with that. I only know US stuff...

I'm sorry!! I don't know what else to say.

Lebo - posted on 08/05/2012




i just went to the home affairs and did that because he lied about marrying me, when they entered his id number they saw that he was already married to another woman for over 15 years and the could not have children, so he kept on insisting that he wants to take the child to visit in his family in Nigeria, my fear was if he could marry me traditionally and lie about the other woman the he may take my child to Nigeria and never come back, then i will look like a bigger fool because it will look like i made a child for a man and a woman who was barren, he is taking care of my son because he threw me out and i am only picking up the pieces as i was homeless after he threw me out. i will take him, but not now, otherwise he will suffer

Amy - posted on 08/05/2012




The child stays with him and you changed his name? I don't even know how you got the courts to do that without the father signing off. You should find a lawyer and let you ex know.

Michelle - posted on 08/05/2012




The plane ticket has to match the name on the ID but I'm not sure about your ID cards.

Like Tina has said, check with either a lawyer or even the immigration/customs department.

I am also wondering why you haven't told the father. He will eventually find out anyway.

Tina - posted on 08/05/2012




You're better off seeking a lawyer and finding out all that. Why have you changed his name? Can't you tell the him so he doesn't find out the hard way?

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