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ALESHA - posted on 01/09/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 4 years old and her dad has been out of her life for a year and since nov.of 2012 he got his vists to see her it started for 2 hrs. for 3 days out of the week and in dec.it went up to 4hrs. he gets no night stays, we go back to court in feb.7 which is next month and he is going to ask for over night stays, i don't think its best for him to get it because it only has been 3 months he is been in her life, he does not work nor have a car plus he is always moving. i have my own place and i go to school and work. What are is chances on getting over night stays?

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Jodi - posted on 01/09/2013

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He probably will. If he has been consistent with his visits, and can show that, the judge will likely decide it is in your daughter's best interests to have a bit more time with her dad to build the relationship. Whether he has a job or a car is irrelevant.

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ALESHA - posted on 01/09/2013

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okay thanks i will!
and its very hard for her as well as me because i tried so many times to get him to see his daughter, so having him back in her life is a very good thing.. but i know the best thing for her is to see and be with her dad but she knows what she wants and i don't know if its me being selfish but i just don't think over night stays he should be able to get it right now.

Dove - posted on 01/09/2013

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You'll have to ask your lawyer for those kinds of details (the moving).

Being late isn't anywhere near as significant as if he were actually missing visitations... even missing visitations might not prevent overnight visits.

It will be ok. Unless he is a danger to her, be thankful that he wants to be involved now. I don't doubt that it isn't easy on you, but it's good for HER to have a Dad.

ALESHA - posted on 01/09/2013

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okay thank you.. he has been late 5 times picking her up and im in the process of moving and if i do move she would have to switch schools, how does that work

Dove - posted on 01/09/2013

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Like Jodi said... if he's been consistent with his visits the chances are pretty good for overnights to start. The judge 'might' make a longer transition (like all day first) for a few months first, but... maybe not.

3 times/week for 3 months is long enough for them to have gotten a chance to get acquainted.

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