Please help!!!!!!

BCVC - posted on 02/04/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My sister is 36 yrs old single mom and has a 20 year old daughter who is very aggressive towards her. She even called the cops when daughter was hiting her. Daughter does not have a job and is not going to college. My sis has asked her to move out by end of Feb. We think daughter has an undiagnosed and untreated mental health problem. She is a ticking time bomb! She is very stressed right now because she needs to move out and has even told my sis she is going to kill her. What can my sis do?? Her daughter refuses to go see a therapist or a psychiatrist or pastor from her church. Family relatives have tried to step in and help but they have also gotten agressive treatment from her and are scared.

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Rebekah - posted on 02/04/2013

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I agree with Jennifer. I would also add that if she is making homicidal threats and has other behaviors of concern (aggression, mood issues, etc), she could be committed to a psychiatric unit for evaluation and treatment. She will probably resist treatment initially, but she can be committed to stay if there are grounds that she is unstable or a danger to self or others.... it may be an opportunity to get her some help.

Other than that, if the cops were called for assault, your sister should be pressing charges so that her daughter can experience consequences for her actions. This behavior should not be tolerated. It is sad for this to happen, but consequences (and ideally, help) are needed asap. Empower your sister as much as you can so that she can follow through. I'm sure its painful for her on many levels.

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Jennifer - posted on 02/04/2013

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She is an adult and can legally be booted out, and if your sister feel's like she may retaliate, she can get a restraining order. It's sad to think it can come to that, but no one would condone a parent hitting a child..or vice versa. Mental problem aside, it's abuse. Defo needs to seek counseling for her anger and hostility. I do hope she does find her way and their relationship mends. xxx

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