Please Help!!!!! Hi. I live in texas.Im here for help..i have a 4 year old daughter, her father knew i was having a baby of him he even helped me out sometimes with stuff for her..he was not a good father, he lived in amarillo texas, so he was not with me when baby was born..hes no on birth certificate, but when i comes to child support i did a dumb thing, i lie, i gave child support office a fake name of my babys father and said i did not knew nothing about him, that everything just happened in a nigth, i did this because i listen to my mother and aunt, they told me to give a fake name, since i had alot of problems with him ( i know..what you thinking..but i truly did not know what i was thinking plus i did not know how child soppurt works, i was 14 years old) . when my daughter turn 1 year he abandon her, i never recieve calls or anything from him. I knew he got married over there and he has another kid. Now.. after 3 years he comes back to the city and claims her daughter to the child support office.. i received the letter yesterday to fill it our about his information. He does not know i gave the false name. Im worried of what can happen. the case i had first with fathers fake name was closed, and now i have another case with same baby but different fathers name. please help me im scared of loosing my daugther, I dont know what to do.

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Snickerzzz_33 - posted on 08/27/2012

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I dont think he can just come and take the child. She;s been with you for the past 4 years. She has feelings too, even at that age. And if he ever comes , even just to visit, tell him to ask her what she wants. It does not matter what he wants. She's been with you. only you. Anyone forced you to have this chid?or did you want? First thing in the morning, I want to to be relaxed, take deep breaths. and call the child support service. Dont be scared, they will help you, but you need to tell them why you fear of this guy, and everthing that you've told me. If you feel like you cant do it over the phone, set an appointment with a woman that works there. I think it will be esier on you. Dont worry. It will be ok, you will see.

Snickerzzz_33 - posted on 08/27/2012

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its not your problem if she kills herself, if she cant handle her life, and is threatning you that she'll kill herself, she needs help. You and your daughter are important, and to have your daughter with you, you need to tell them who the real dad is. Does the man pay you anything? presents for the child? something? Yes, I do fear too of her harming herself and your little girl, But you dont have anything to lose if you call and tell the truth and how you feel. I think you will only gain from it, not lose

Angel - posted on 08/27/2012

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Thank you... I was 14 and he was 17.. When i had my baby i had just turn 15 and he turn 18.. I do have fear im scared of letting him take my daughter since he lie to much to me and i havent talk to him for a long time, when i use to speak to him on the phone he would talk to me but hidding from his girlfirend because he told me that if she knew i talked to him..she will kill her self. i dont know if she has any mental problems but im scared that she could do something to my daughter.. Im 19 years old and he is 22

Snickerzzz_33 - posted on 08/27/2012

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How old was he when he got you pregnant? If I were you, I'd call them and tell them the truth, but also tell them that I fear from him.. right? Do you fear from him? I wish I could help you more. You must be honest with them in order for you to get the help you deserve. May I ask how old are you? You dont have to, but if you're under 18 and this man is over 21, I hope u'll be able to sue him and and get the help you need. Pick up the phone and call them, so you wont have these fears, they will tell you what to do. I wish you the best of luck Angel

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