please help husband(pastor) n 19 year old daughter fumbling around she told me about it saying she was going to cut him. anyway too make along story short both admitted to it he admitted first but didn't want to say what she dis to entice him afraid of messing up mother and daughter relationship, she denied it but recently told me she prayed about it and believe Gos has forgiven her she haven't actually admitted to fault but it's obvious, in our household it's strict rules kids go to bed at 9:30p and Tia and remote, and cell phone be turned in to us. so that they could get rest doe school ans US foe work, my to teenagers were allowed to go places Burt have to be home at a certain time, my son is 21 and may daughter is 19, my baby boy is 9 he is the only one I has by my husband. he raises my other two fro 3 months old daughter and 1/1/2 year old son after my son left my daughter got depressed she would put newd pictures on facebook in a bikini or underwear and a bra she is just crazy about her stepfather until she couldn't have her way, she respect him to the fullest nit somuch now anyway he was her pet, she had problems with boys not treating her right and he treated her by giving her her way, but I am very spiritual and for what I see is jezebel working subduction wearing clothes that were not presentable. I don't know but things got out of hand my husband is a loner type very quite stays in our room to himself, he was also going through something's so both of them were weak it's alto more but it's too much in my head to write I love them both so I decided not to. leave because if I left I would despise her, because I know she's very cunning she wants her way but I stayed I don't know If this is enough but help am I crazy?????

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Toomuch - posted on 06/25/2013

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INCEST IS INCEST BROTHER, SISTER, DAUGHTER, COUSIN, MOTHER, FATHER, ETC. BUT NO SEX WAS INVOLVED HERE.......

Toomuch - posted on 06/25/2013

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it is strange how people can turn your words around, maybe i didn't say it right fumbling meaning flirtatious acting, they did not have sex it didn't get that far, but everything's out in the open now and no it had not been going on, if that was the case i would have left and yes he have cheated on me but he confessed that, and we moved on, things happen in ones life behind closed doors and no one knows but god knows but my bible tells me that he gives u the right to a divorce that's if you can't reconcile, in order for my father to forgive me i must forgive others, i Am not one to easily give up, or commit suicide for that matter, we are God loving people and we all no how Satan can intervene but i do know that prayer changes things, and i also know that God wont put no more on you than u can bear and if i cant bear it i will just give it to God and that's just what i did, i could have let Satan torment me with my mind of the thought of that happening but i had to have faith i know my God is able to do exceedingly and abundantly all things, but anyway we have been more than blessed since that situation, GOD ALLOWS THINGS TO HAPPEN IN ONES LIFE WHAT DON'T KILL YOU WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER, SO U MOMS OUT THERE I PRAY U ARE ABLE TO FACE WHATEVER DEMONS COME YOUR WAY BUT KNOW THIS WE FIGHT NOT AGAINST FLESH AND BLOOD (PEOPLE) BUT AGAINST PRINCIPALITIES AND EVIL SPIRITS IN HIGH PLACES, WE HAVE BEEN TRULY BLESSED EVER SINCE WE PERSEVERED WE DID NOT GET STUCK AND NOW......... WERE AT PEACE, AND THANK U FOR YOUR REPLIES!!!!!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/20/2013

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Chances are, if he had the audacity to have sex with your daughter, he has been cheating on you longer than just this. This is a disturbing situation. I wonder how long this has been going on, and if he was molesting your daughter from a young age.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/20/2013

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Whoa, hold on a minute. You are blaming your 19 year old daughter for having sex with your PASTOR husband who raised her from a toddler? Are you kidding me? Women, you need to take your kids out of that house and leave this man. Stop blaming your daughter. Chances are, she is acting like a "Jezebel" (your words not mine) because he has sexualized her and it confused the living hell out of her. Girl needs counseling, and you need to take a step back and ask yourself if this man is more important to you than your children. I don't care how religous he is, his actions speak volumes more so than his words. As far as I am concerned, he took advantage of your young daughter, and lives in the same house as her so he can continue to prey on her. Lovely. You are having sex with a man that had sex with your daughter.

Jodi - posted on 05/20/2013

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In addition to what Michelle said, did you ask your daughter how long this had been going on? Who is to say this hasn't been happening for a long time?

Michelle - posted on 05/19/2013

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Would you still stay with him if he had an affair outside of your home? That's what he has done, it was just under your nose.
Why would you despise your daughter? It took both of them to "fool around" so they are both at fault. He is more of an adult and if he knew that your daughter had a thing for him then he should NEVER have been alone with her. It sounds as if you are blaming your daughter instead of both of them.

From someone who was cheated on in my own home (it was his cousin not my daughter luckily) it's not on and you really need to think hard about what you want to do. Can you ever trust him again (not just with your daughter) with any other women? What happens if another woman finds him so attractive she throws herself at him and he gives in to his desires again?

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