Please Help...I had to 302 my husband

Sarah - posted on 03/04/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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This past Monday night I had to do one of the hardest things in my life and 302 my husband. My husband was in the military for 4 years when he was in his twenties...he has never went to combat, but he has told me on multiple occasions that he has seen things that he will never talk about. My husband also suffers from Bipolar disorder. I have seen him get depressed..but bounce back a few days later. I know his life growing up with his parents was not the healthiest, there was a lot of physical and mental abuse...the use of hardcore drugs by his father (not his mother)...from what I have gathered it was not a healthy household by any means. At one point in his lifetime..I am not sure when, it wasn't when we were together but he tried committing suicide...after his military days. I do not think his parents got him the proper help...I know they about the suicide attempt...but I don't think they wanted to deal with it. Which baffles me.

My husband and I have not been married a year yet (april)...but I have never seen him this way before. We have a 6 month of daughter. His personality had declined immensely. I thought maybe he didn't want to be together anymore....and he said he loves and and does not want to break up. His personality is so different it is like his is off of a different planet....he started drinking Pabst beer 24oz cans..that come in a 6 pack. He would drink all 6 within an hour and a half. On sunday night he was in our bedroom..sitting in the dark staring at our dresser. If, I sat next to him he wouldn't say two words. All he does on his days off is drink...he no longer was paying attention to me or our daughter. For a few months he was acting really strangly..I didn't put much thought into it. If I asked him do you want me to watch tv with you...he wouldn't answer, it felt more than just plan old ignoring me. For weeks I have been crying.

On Monday around 430pm, I received a phone call from a co-worker saying he never returned from his lunch break to work. Which is really unusual for him, he normally is very prompt. I became really panicky...because of all the bs that I have been dealing with for weeks. A zillion thoughts ran through my mind. And he doesn't have a cell phone. After 45 minutes later I hear a knock at the door and it is my husband. The first thing he said to me is I quit my job, while holding a 6 pack of beer. He told me that he got demoted for something that out of his control but his pay will be the same. I was so angry because that decision affects both my daughter and I. But I didn't act upon it. We live with my parents because we can't afford our own place..to many bills. To make a really long story short...he up a leaves the house and walked to the nearest police station. He calls me 3 hours later and says I need to get help....then in the same breath he says I'm fine. We talked with my parents...and my stepdad and mom said that he is on the brink of having a breakdown...they could tell he wasn't all there, he reminded them of someone that returned home from war. My parents were leaving for Hawaii early morning the next day. My husband started saying he feels that everyone at work is ganging up on him and that he said he thinks a co worker of his is following him. He became really paranoid. It felt like if he would look at you that we was looking past you. He is not the same person that I married 10 months ago...or even 6 months ago. My husband is not all here mentally.

At 930 monday night he was 302. He didn't fight it....he has to stay for 72 hour evaluation. I have not heard from any of his doctors...even though I left messages. I don't him to sugar coat anything so he can get out of there earlier. He needs help. The doctors need to know what has been going on from another persons perspective.

I feel all alone. I have never done anything like this. Has anyone been through anything similar to this before? Please I need some help..thoughts...advice...and prayers. I'm desperate, but staying strong for my daughter and husband.

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Sasha - posted on 03/04/2015

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Your doing the right thing and the safest thing for the whole family keep being strong!

Trisha - posted on 03/04/2015

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I am sorry. I did not know what 302 means, but I am assuming you had to force him to a mental institute.
My father has been in and out of mental hospitals since I was 12 years old. You did good. If my mother had not forced my dad to get the help he got, he would likely be on the streets now, if not dead.
My dad sees his doctors on a regular basis, is relatively stable with the help of medications. I have a great relationship with him. My parents did end up splitting eventually, because my mom was the focus of his obsessive paranoia. He thought she was cheating on him.
There are MANY resources out there for you for get in touch with. It might be beneficial for you and your children to start seeing counselors (the school counselors will not be effective for this - it never helped me at least).

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Sarah - posted on 03/05/2015

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I have a little update...after three long days not being able to talk to my husband....he FINALLY called me tonight. I was so nice just to hear his voice over the phone. I could hear a little more optimism in his voice...and that the doctors are adjusting his medications..he has been going to therapy a couple times a day and is seeing a new therapist tomorrow. He also said he has been eating a ton as well. But we are unsure of when he is going to be coming home. I told him to stay in there as long as needed, and reassured him that everything is just fine on the home front and that he has nothing to worry about.

Thank you everyone for the support...I will keep everyone posted! Please keep us in your prayers and if you have any advice on anything please feel free to comment!

Trisha - posted on 03/04/2015

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Sarah C, Virginia is probably a pre-teen skipping school today. They have been posting ignorant comments randomly.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask. I wish I could put you in touch with my mother directly. She was my super-hero during that time of my life. I was so proud of her for being so strong. She was working full time, driving 5 hrs a week between cities so we could visit my father, raising pre-teens and simply holding it together.

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