Please help I need some advice really quickly. I am extremely worried for the well being of my neice who is like a daughter to me!

Geanna - posted on 10/07/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Situation: My brother has had his daughter for a few years during which I have witnessed him and his gf be neglectulful of my neice. They have both been to jail. Neither work. On several occasions CPS has been involved. All during this time we were told that her real Mom wanted.nothing to do.with her. A few days ago he went to jail and now my neice is with his gf. Well I decided to see.if I could find her real Mom.just.to.see why she wasn't involved. Well she has been trying to find them for a long time now. I found out that the only reason my brother had her was bc her real mother was battling cancer but is now in remission. She would love to have her daughter. They weren't married when she was born and there is no custody order. The mother lives in another state. Can she come and get her daughter legally. I hate to say this about my own family but they are horrible people and she deserves to be with her daughter. Anyone have any advice?

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Laura - posted on 10/07/2013

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Wow! Well first of all, Much Love to you for looking out for your niece like that and wanting the Best for her. You are who she has for this time being and always im sure of it. What I would do is allow the mother have communication with her daughter and let them begin building a relationship. Perhaps a couple visits when possible since she lives in another state. The cost for travel can vary and time consuming. when able, allow stay overs and let your niece get to know her mama. In the meantime, continue to support her emotionally and BE that mother figure/aunt to her. Depending on state laws I do believe she is entitled to come and get her anytime. You might want to make sure on that. Also make sure that her mother has healthy habits and has stability. The last thing you would want is for your niece to go to a similar situation as with her father.
wishing you the Best!

Laura

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Geanna - posted on 10/07/2013

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Yes I have thought on all of those things. I've been in contact with her Mom.for about a week now and while everyone has a past she is very stable and would really be the best place. If I could I would go.to.court and vet.custody of.her but I'm.being honest with myself and know financially I can't do it as.I have 3 boys of my own and a very tiny house. The.person my neice is with now is horrible and while she hasn't.seen.her Momma, I can't help but think she would be safer. I'm so scared that something bad will happen to her where she is. Especially now that he is.in jail. The gf treats my neice so much worse when he isn't around and I've witnessed it first hand. I'm so stressed and not sure what to.do.

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