Suz - posted on 06/24/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )
My daughter and her boyfriend both 17 broke up 3 weeks ago. She is devastated because she initiated arguing a few weeks before the breakup and slowed things down a little and regrets it 100 percent but was going through some things and cranky. They had a wonderful 2 1/2 years, always laughing and being very respectful and loving with eachother. They did become inseparable and lost friendships because of always only being with eachother. They were planning their future and colleges and always had mature talks about their relationshp and how much they loved eachother and were growing up together. She is devastated because three weeks ago he finally over texting ( Ill never understand that) told her that he has accepted that they need to move on and just enjoy the summer. She did tell him she realized she was causing fighting (dumb little arguments) and that she loved him and would like to learn from mistakes and keep trying. He has since reconnected with his best friend who has a girlfriend and has been going out in his group and paired off with her best friend in many outings posted on fb and instagram. He a few times texted late that he missed her and loves her but this is whats best for now. He is obviously dating and encouraged her to date as well. She just said she will respect that and OK and has not texted him since. Few questions, why do kids think texting is the way to talk trough and end a 2 1/2 year old relationship. Also, she is crushed he is already dating and I am encouraging her to also go out in big groups but that group was kind of her group too and she can't do that now.
In the 2 1/2 years they were very happy and handled things with great maturity until the last 2 weeks before the breakup. Any advice besides keep her off social media and just be there to listen and let time heal? He has done more adventurous type outings in these 2 weeks then they did in two years - his best friend is very social and sets up fun things to do and set him up withing a week to help him move on and introduced him to a new girl so he is having a blast with her in these group outings which his friend posts. She can't understand how he can just turn everything off so quickly when they were so committed.