Please help!! My 1 year old is hitting and pushing at daycare.

Jennifer - posted on 01/08/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My 1 year old daughter is usually very sweet and helpful. She always loved playing with the kids. It started within the last month or so she started hitting and pushing and pulling hair. She has 3 siblings at home and does none of this. She is never aggressive at home. I am one of the teachers in her room so I know that nothing is happening there nor are the kids beating up on her. I have been consistent with telling her no. I have made her give hugs and showed her how to be nice.I have given time outs everytime she has done something to another child. I'm at my wits end. I dread going to work since I have to follow behind her and make sure she doesn't do anything to the other kids. She is normally a fun loving girl I am so upset and am not sure what to do. Please any suggestions on what to do please?!!?

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Jodi - posted on 01/08/2014

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I'm not suggesting it is something new, just suggesting that she can't separate you as mum from you as teacher. At daycare, she may feel she has some level of dominance and that is why she is doing it - she doesn't have this dominance at home because she is the smallest.

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Ev - posted on 06/29/2014

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And in places I have worked where my kids also attended in a class, I was not allowed to be the teacher in their room. I am surprised that your child care place allowed you to be in the same room with her like that. Even where I work now, the kids and parents that work there are not allowed in the same room. It is the rules in the rule book. I have to agree with the others...if you are the one doing all the disciplining of her in the room then that may be the problem.

Jodi - posted on 01/08/2014

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Either option. I would say that you are not the only one in the room that should be disciplining her for her behaviour. She may respond differently if someone else does it.

Jennifer - posted on 01/08/2014

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So do you suggest that someone else discipline her or it will end when she is no longer in my room and just wait for that?

Jennifer - posted on 01/08/2014

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I have been in the classroom with her the whole time so it's nothing new. She will soon be moving out of my classroom at 15 mos. Myolder children do sometimes play fight and or hit eachother out of anger sometimes which of course they are told to stop, get in trouble for and are not allowed to do. I'm not understanding why she is just doing it at daycare and not at home.

Jodi - posted on 01/08/2014

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Maybe it is not an ideal situation, you being one of the teachers in her room and you being the one to discipline her.

Are her older siblings at home aggressive toward each other or her at all?

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