Please help! My 12 year old is peeing and pooping in her pants!

Christie - posted on 06/27/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




I have been having an issue with my 12 year old daughter for the past 6 months or so. She would pee and poop in her underwear and I couldn't figure out why. First she said that she couldn't make it to the bathroom in time and that a little came out (it's always been just a bit at a time). So I brought her to the doctor and everything is fine and healthy. Her doctor suggested to scheduled bathroom breaks at home and school, but this still wasn't working. I also cut back on her fluid intake, but then I worried that she would get dehydrated. I also wake her up in the middle of the night for her to go the bathroom. Then she said that she was just lazy and didn't think other people could notice. There have been so many talks about cleanliness and infections (she's had 2 bladder infections) I don't know what else to say to get through to her. After out most recent heart to heart, she admitted that she does it on purpose (a little bit at a time) when she's on her way home from school or the park or wherever because she enjoys the smell of both the pee and the poop! She even asked if she could pee and poop in some underwear and keep it in her closet so she can smell it that way (I said absolutely not to that request), but now I really don't know what to do or say on this matter. I have been trying to find information onlione that might help me but I've come up empty. I'm also waiting for a call back from a child psychologist. Is there anyone who might have any insight that might help me with what my next step should be??


Lillian - posted on 05/10/2013




Just calm down and go to the store and buy some diapers to put her in it worked for my daughter Anna

Neva - posted on 06/27/2011




I would take her to a psychologist. This could be the sign of deeper emotional issues, especially since it just started 6 months ago. Was there any kind of incident that happened around that time? Did she spend the night with anyone? This type of behavior sometimes happens when a child has been sexually abused. I'm not wanting to worry you unnecessarily, but I think that you should make an appointment for counseling.

Joesphin - posted on 03/03/2014




put her in a diaper
she might see that peeing and pooping her pants there will be a punishment

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Completley agree with JuLeah, being 12 she already knows how and when to use the bathroom.... id be looking into the school, kids she plays with, kids' homes she might visit, and very sad to say, relatives and family she might be seeing and definantly a psychologist. Something has had to have happened or is happening for her to do this.

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JuLeah - posted on 06/27/2011




Wow ... trully not heard of this before, but sounds like you are on the right track.

Good on ya for your approach ... not judging her, no shame, no punishment or yelling ... just trying to figure it out and understanding action of some kind must be taken.

So, good job Mom.

If this has only been the last six month or so ... well, I worked with a kid some years back that started this ... his mom had a new boyfriend who had taken a special interest in him ... being dirty, stinky, gross in that way, was this boy's defense ....

But, regardless of the cause, you are on the right track bringing in professionals

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