Wendy - posted on 04/16/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
Please help my 7 year old daughter steals sweets. First let me mention she was a foster child, but now is adopted. She has ADHD and horded food when I first got her several years ago. I have always made a point to have food out and available to her whenever she wants it, but she only steals and eats what she can’t have. I have literally tried everything and the only way to prevent this is to lock the snack cupboard, which I don't think I should have to. This is the only thing locked in the kitchen the fridge which has cake in it and all of the other cupboard and pantry are open. It is locked with a child safety lock and before long she will figure out how to open it anyways. I always have food available for her to get including breads, cheeses, fruits, vegis, yogurts etc., but she only steals sweets, so I made her some healthier cookies with chocolate chips that tasted delicious and she loves (which she eats, but has not stolen) and told her she could get into them anytime she wanted, she never had to ask and she could eat as much as she wanted. The only rule was if she ate them before a meal she would still have to eat all of her meal. Even with setting these cookies out she still steals sweats. I had 5 Cadbury eggs saved for Easter she got up in the night and ate 3 the next night she ate the last 2. She has eaten an entire box of cookies, an economy size box of rice Krispy treats and even stole her brother’s candy out of his Christmas stocking. She does this at night or really early in the morning before the sun even gets up, I’m assuming since I have never caught her in action. I have tried everything from disciplining her, grounding her from any form of sweets for a week, taking her toys, to positive reinforcement oh and making her tell her brother she stole from him and I told her that Santa would remember that for next year. She does have ADHD, and is medicated. During the day the meds decrease her appetite so at night she is hungry, but she has tons of food available even cookies, she only goes for the stuff she can't have. I am at my wits end and have no idea what to do. I'm worried her brother will start doing this too, because he admires her so much. He is 2. I also find the wrappers hidden in her room when I clean it, so I find all the evidence and when I ask her if she sometimes will fess up and say she doesn’t know why she did it. She doesn’t care if she eats someone else’s treat. I forgot to mention that I have left the cupboard open so she could get into it and she still sneaks it, but she will eat all of it, not just a few. Like with the economy size box of rice Krispy treats. It took her a few days, but she did it. She is a skinny girl and I want her to gain weight, but not at the cost that every sweet think in our house is gone so no one ever gets any. I have had it and don’t know what to do. I would really like to hear from moms who have had this problem and found a solution.