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Ok, so cps and everyone knows about this incident that JUST happend but this is a little info about previous to now events.
On Xmas day 2010 my now ex husband was arrested for domestic violence, cutting of a telephone line, and suspected child abuse on my now 3 1/2 old daughter. Once he was arrested all of my in laws came to me with threats and more threats so badly I was scared for my life! Not to mention my ex always said if ever I turned him in he would KILL me!
So, I felt scared so the advise I got from state troopers as well as local sheriffs was to take my daughter and go to a safe home before her father got out of jail. So we did.In January 2011 the safe home paid our way to travel back to my home state 3000 miles away.
In April 2011 I got a letter from the prosecuter that all of the charges were dismissed because they felt we were in a safe place back home and that her father could not hurt us anymore. Soon after getting this letter, her father showed up at my dads doorstep looking for me!!! And, as stupid as this sounds, I fell for his lies of I'm sorry I'm sorry and like an idiot I came back to Michigan. Three days after being back in our marital home, he lashed out at me again. So, I had to take my daughter and go stay in another home! And, in the same month I ended up filing for divorce.
Eventually after time I got a place of my own and a new relationship which landed me into becoming pregnant and him leaving me. I got very sick with that pregnancy and became completely on bed rest starting at 9 weeks pregnant.
I went to court for custody and even after everything that happened I was basically forced into giving my ex husband 50 50 custody according to my attorney which I believe didn't do his job to get us that! So, ever since than - the judge says she goes to her fathers EVERY weekend!
During this time, my daughter started telling me that her daddy was touching her! She was complaining of her bottem hurting all of the time and it was very red and raw looking. I took her to the doctors and because her heimn was still intacted they said the red looked like yeast and if she was being molested on the outside theres no way of telling whether or not it's really going on.
My gut feeling was to call cps so I did - the same woman from before came to my apartment and interigated me hardcore! That woman was screaming in my face that I was making false accusations just so I could go home and be with my family!! I told her that's not the case at all - I am looking out for the safety of my daughter! And she told me there is nothing that they can do because they cannot take a girl my daughters age seriously so even if it is happening it will have to keep happening until she is of age to be taken seriously!!! WTF!!!
After that, everything got quiet for awhile - my daughter stopped saying things.
In January 2011 I found an apartment in a bigger city closer to my doctors so I moved into it than. I met and started dating a new guy. He was very good to me and after meeting my daughter very good to her.
In March 2011 I became extremely ill and being that I have no family here the best thing was to move in with my boyfriend at the time so that his family could help me as well as help me with my daughter.
All was good. And in April I gave birth to a very healthy premie little girl. Soon after having her, I landed a job that I absolutely love.
It's January 2013 now and my daughter mentioned to me one night of tucking her into bed that her daddy had touched her ______ and it was an accident!!! She also has been complaining of her bottem hurting again. Her bottem has been very red and Ive just been treating it like yeast and putting the old medications they gave me before on it and vaseline which makes it feel better.
Every time I bring her to her dads he calls me yelling at me saying I must not bathe her daily or keep her clean enough for her to be complaining of her bottem hurting. Yeah right, I told him I know how to mother my children and she is bathed daily and always in clean condition with clean clothes - I've never heard complaints!
All these months of nothing and than this!!!! This last time of coming from her dads she has been acting very different and angry almost like. I also talked to her teacher and she said she has noticed a change so they are writing a referral for her to see a phsycologist or however you spell it.
I told my sweet little girl that when someone does that it's never an accident I told her to say NO DADDY the next time because if he is doing that he should have the mindset to hear that and STOP :( But than, my mom told me that she could just be saying that for attention to..... cps knows because a family member told I guess. But, what do I believe??????
I really need someone to give me advice because is she to young to be taken seriously?????