Please HELP! Serious incident at the home day care

Sogi - posted on 08/09/2016 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My son is two years old. He just started at this home day care yesterday. The lady almost lost my son. She told me that he woke up from his nap and unlocked the door and went outside without her knowing. Luckily, her neighbor saw my son on the street and brought him.
I just can't believe this happened. She told me that if she had known that my son could manipulate the locks, she would used the chain door guard. I don't know what to do. Not I don't feel ease when I leave my son.
What should I do?

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Michelle - posted on 08/11/2016

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She could have just gone to the bathroom. It's probably best to go when the kids are asleep so I wouldn't be dwelling on the "What was she doing in another room?" question.
If you like her then I suggest sitting down and having a talk with her. Let her know your concerns and come up with a plan together. If she isn't responsive to your concerns then you would probably be better off finding somewhere else.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/10/2016

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I was very fortunate when my eldest was about 12 months. I got him into a licensed in home daycare, which was awesome. This lady only took families that she had referred to her by current clients. When we met with her, she had a list of all of the questions that Ev suggested, along with her responses.

She knew her stuff! Best experience ever, and had we not relocated a couple of years later, she would have watched our kids for as long as necessary.

It is important that you have open communication with whoever you choose for childcare, and that you are comfortable with them and their methods. Anyone who gets upset or offended by the list Ev put up is not someone you want watching your kids

Ev - posted on 08/10/2016

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I used to work in a preschool setting with 2 year old children. As the other ladies posted, at this age they will try out anything to see what it does or how it works. If they figure out things for themselves all the better....and all the more trouble they can get into. Tis an age of learning and independence.

I would suggest asking the following questions of a person you are considering to care for your child:

Are you First Aid/CPR certified?
Is your home care registered with the state, town, county?
How many children are you allowed to care for at one time?
What are your safety measures to keep the kids from going out doors, windows, etc?
Do you use the safety locks on cabinets, doors, other things that can be opened to keep the kids out of things that would hurt them? Do you use outlet covers?
What kind of set up is the area that is used for the children's care during the day? Is it visible from the kitchen area or other rooms?
Emergency action plan for fires, bad weather, or other such things.
How old are the kids in the care of this person?
What is the daily schedule?
What is the snack/meal schedule?
How do you handle sick children?
How do you handle children with allergies to foods and other things?
Do other people come visit during the hours of operation that are not the normal ones living in the home?
Is there a learning curriculum used?


These are just a few of the questions you should begin to ask before placing a child with someone. You really want someone either registered or licensed by the state, town and county you or they live in. You want someone to go by the state regs on ratio of adults to children based on the age of the youngest kids (ex: You do not want them in a house full of school aged kids and a few young ones under 3.) You want someone who is certified in CPR and First AID. You want someone who has the safety locks, outlet covers, and such in place to help prevent kids getting hurt. You want them to have a room they use to do the care in that is seen from the kitchen area easily. You want someone who has a regular consistent routine and schedule for the kids including meals and snacks and nap times. You need to address the needs of your child to them so they can better take care of the child or handle issues that come up. You need to check them out--background checks so you can be sure they have no criminal history that would prevent them from being around kids such as abuse, neglect, or sexual criminal background. You also need to know their experience and how long they have been doing this. You need to know the rules they have in place for the kids, you need to know if they will let your sick child come or not, how they handle discipline issues, and so much more.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/10/2016

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It is hard to know what to ask at times, but if you knew that your son could manipulate the door hardware, you should have let her know.

As far as taking him back, that would be up to you, but I would recommend a more thorough discussion if you do.

Dove - posted on 08/10/2016

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Has your son ever done that (or tried to do it) at YOUR home? If you knew he could unlock the door then you should have told her to watch out for that sort of thing. When my son was two he used to try and leave the house every time I went pee... lol Thankfully he never got further than the front porch before I was able to get him... but kids are sneaky and kids are fast. Different kids have different capabilities even at the same ages and some kids that know HOW to unlock/open doors... still won't leave the home.

Only you can decide if this is a place you want to keep your son. If she knows about issues and has taken steps to prevent them from reoccurring and you generally like the care your son receives... it might be worth leaving him there. Otherwise, pulling him from her care might be what you want to do.

Sogi - posted on 08/10/2016

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I think its my fault that I didn't ask enough questions. I did ask the basic questions. I don't what she was doing. I was pretty shocked and didn't know what to think.

Sogi - posted on 08/10/2016

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Yes I know he can open the door. I thought she proofed her house that nothing like this would happen.
This is my first experience in home day care. I assumed that she has a knowledge over what they could do and protect them.

Ev - posted on 08/10/2016

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How well did you check out this person who is watching your son? What questions did you ask? What was she doing in another room while the kids were napping?

Michelle - posted on 08/10/2016

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Did you know that your son could open doors before you left him there?
I would say she has learned that she needs to ask a lot more questions of the parents.
Only you can decide if you want to take him back there or find a spot in a proper daycare centre.

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