Please help!!! Should I call CPS on my neighbor?

Sandy - posted on 05/02/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hi ladies, I'm new at this site and I hope that I can get some answers. So I have.a 15 year old neighbor with a 1 year old baby! The mommy leaves the baby with me the whole day while she goes out and plays, when I don't take care of the baby she has her outside in the cold with no pants, sweaters, or socks!! Dirty and no diaper change, the baby always smells bad so when I do. Bring her in I shower her and wash her clothes. She is feeding her everything the mom eats so I don't think she's getting a proper eating habit . I would love to keep her but I don't think the mom will give her to me! Should I call CPS? The mommy lives with her 2 little brother 12 and 14. And her uncle and aunt but they are never home to watch the kids so I always try to feed them and watch over them.

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S. - posted on 05/02/2012

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Yes I would as well sounds like the mommy needs a bit of guidance and help if she's left to it it's only gonna get worse. Maybe they can find her some parenting classes

Louise - posted on 05/02/2012

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Yes this child is being neglected. It sounds as if all the children in this home need a bit of help.

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Sarah - posted on 05/03/2012

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I'd call. Obviously this isn't a healthy situation for the baby. It's kind of you to step in and provide care, but it's also enabling her behaviour a bit. She's obviously not responsible enough to care for an infant. Good luck.

Kelly - posted on 05/02/2012

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Maybe you can have a sit down conversation with the only adults....the aunt and uncle. Approach it from the stand point that you have a child raising a child and they need to consider some support. This is something they need to problem solve on what is best for the child. State not every mom is perfect and we all struggle but that the basic needs of the child are not getting met on a regular basis. I do not think it is your job to continue to rescue unless you take on the child as a paid daycare worker. I take it the teen is not going to school? How is she going to support this child as an adult? I think if you help them walk through some short term goals and some long term goals you might be teaching the family and improve daily living for the child in the long run. If the teen is open to it try mentoring her more. If you do not feel as if you have a working relationship with the adults then I would call CPS. Be clear about what you see. For ex. document one week. Temps and how the baby is dressed etc. Then leave it in their hands. Better than regret no having spoken up for someone who cannot speak for themselves.

Bethany - posted on 05/02/2012

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Maybe another thing you should do is get her into a cooking class or give her some recipes, or go over her house, as a friend, and teach her some healthy cooking and teach her how to understand when her child could be too cold/hot, teach her how to bathe her child. With the recipe teaching I suggest you start off with something thats quick and easy for her.such as a tuna bake, home made meatballs and spaghetti, home made nuggets (i roll chicken mince in flour, egg, bread crumbs!)

Bethany - posted on 05/02/2012

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Being only 15 with what seems like no support, she doesnt seem to know what shes doing. id suggest finding her parenting classes, offering to go with her if shes scared, find her a mothers group, when you are looking after her childtry to get her to stay for a little while when she comes to pick up her child offer her advice and let her see how you parent her child if she refuses help then you should call protective services.

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