Holly - posted on 09/17/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
If it is in a court agreement for my x to have supervised visits with their father at department of social services, and he brings his new wife, can I stop her from being in the room during the visits?? I mean, I am pretty sure I can, but I feel like I am being the bad guy…..please understand that there is extensive lash outs, lies, criminal behavior, and she has been put on the state registry for abuse and neglect on my children….but not charged…she was giving a treatment plan to get sober, parenting, etc etc, and if she fails to do what on this treatment plan she will risk the possibility of being charged with child abuse and neglect …..she has been putting me through hell since 2009…. She once even kidnapped my children, but no criminal charges were filed…..Anyway in the agreement now it says nothing about her being in the room during supervised visits, well September 7th she was charged with shoplifting, first degree, property less than 1000.00…and since they have been vising the kids supervised, keep in mind, that even that for me, has been pure hell!! She has approached me about every visit and tried to start something with me…..I keep my cool, but I am sick and tired of the shit, my attorney has guaranteed me full custody, and we are going to ask for everything to remain how it is now, as far when it comes to our private hearing for custody, my attorney will ask that he sees the girls and I supervise them not DSS…….
My question is….my next visit I will be making the request once again for her not to be in the room…….the case worker asked last time I tried to stop her from seeing my kids, “what does the kids want”, well the kids want to see her, but please understand, she put bruises on my children, tried to break into a home with my kids and they were her look out, she left them home alone, they had to clean before homework, omg, the list goes on and on, and some too harsh to put on internet….. My kids, are naive, and they only feel like they have to like her because of their dad, but they won’t admit it, (there dad can be intimidating and he was abusive towards the end of our relationship to me and kids) they don’t understand and I don’t expect them too, I don’t want to drag them in the middle….please help!! What do you think??? DO you think I will be making a mistake by not letting the girls see her?? Do you think that will make me look bad come review time??? I feel like I need to step up and be an adult and protect my children and do what’s in their best interest and that is to eliminate all contact with her…..of coarse their dad will be mad, but I am hoping he will settle down, once he realizes I need him to see his kids, and have no plans for my children to start hating me any time soon, they love their dad!!
PS, she is also taking drug rehab due to failing a drug test of LONG TERM COCAINE USE…………..