Melanie - posted on 07/14/2014 ( 10 moms have responded )
Hi, we're having trouble with my fiancé ex in regards to visitation. She works as an Air Hostess so child access has previously worked around her erratic schedule, if my partner cannot do (fit in) he misses out on seeing his child. They split up when 5 months pregnant and I came on the scene (met) when Charlie was around 4months old. Since that time I have shared care with the father which I know would be hard on his ex being a mother myself to a 9year old.
My question is of what my rights are as a shard carer, yes I'm not the birth mother although for Charlie to see his dad, if he starts works early I have to take him or pick him up from daycare. The mother is refusing to let me. She is causing all sorts of hassle, sending texts to me saying her ex is sending explicit material to her.. He did send a link for a cheap vibrator as she had said months ago she needed an upgrade. I was disappointed and upset to hear this. She said she had heaps more. I replied great bring it on x.
? My partner admits he sent it - nothing sexual - she needing one and it came up on group on. Really cheap
Stupid thing for him to do, yes! Though I do trust him and know she's a trouble maker.
I have been quite mature about this. Thanking her and saying that yes if she has more. Forward it on. Although she wanted to play cat and mouse and said she would forward the rest when we got back from our weeks holiday away - which she wouldn't let Charlie come as it was too far away although she was working away at that time and needed help! .. More texts from her asking if I really really wanted to know. Blah blah
I ended up getting exasperated and sent a facetious txt.. Below
Hi. Always good to know the truth... I'd appreciate it if - when or if you do send anything further you cc rick also. He does tell me most things other than obviously the ones he wants you to delete - stupid thing to do yes. Besides from that I do trust him & if he sent you a link for a fanny relaxer well that was in bad taste to say at the least & obviously he didn't think it through all that well.
This issue is between both of you, not me. I didn't have a child with you & I'm not sure an upgrade to a strap on would get you pregnant. ? I'm sure you'll both work it out. Have a good night.
... Which was a bit over the line as she admitted she just wanted to get pregnant to anyone.
All bulls@@t aside.. Have I got any rights as a co-carer or do you have to just sit back and wear it?