Please help...what would you do

Candy - posted on 07/16/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )




I was talking to my son, who's 8, tonight and he said he wondered what it would be like to be a girl. I asked if he wanted to be a girl and he said only for a few days. I asked if he wanted to wear dresses etc and he said no. I told him i would love him no matter what. He also said he couldn't be a girl anyway because you can't change it. I said but what if you could what would you want to be a girl he said no, he just wants to be more acrobatic like a girl. I asked if he was happy with himself as a boy and he said yes. He will sometimes pretend that he is some girl from a movie he likes. He will often more times than not be a boy character. Should I drop this with him or v follow up more?


Raye - posted on 07/16/2015




In a lot of the action movies, the girls are more acrobatic than the guys. The guys are usually tougher and have the bigger weapons. Maybe you should take him to the circus or an acrobatic type show and let him see that men can be acrobatic too. Try to find mens gymnastics or martial arts on TV and ask if that looks like something he'd be interested in. There are many different kinds of competitive athleticism that is not as rough as football, hockey, wrestling, boxing, or other sports. Maybe he'd like ballet. Many athletes in a variety of sports take some ballet for help with balance, muscle/body control, etc. Find out what he's interested in and support him. It may be a passing thing, or it may be his passion. Whatever it is, continue to love him and encourage him to be the best version of himself that he can be.

Dove - posted on 07/16/2015




Drop it. He knows that you love him no matter what and that is important. He just sounds like a curious kid who likes to play pretend. I'm almost 39 and I still wonder on occasion what it's like to be a guy. lol I have no interest in BEING a guy (though when younger I would have liked to try it out for a day), but he kind of sounds like he might be the opposite of me as a kid.


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MaryAnn - posted on 07/16/2015




He sounds like a curious guy who likes to play. I'd probably drop the girl/boy thing and just let him play whoever he wants to pretend to be. Its normal to be curious, and healthy to have a variety of role models. If theres more to it, and he doesnt think you'll make a big deal, he's more likely to let you know.

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