Lisa - posted on 01/14/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
I am so incredibly happy to know that my 2 children have a father that makes them feel loved and that wants to be a consistent part of their lives. I do know that this is a very hard thing to find! However, when their father and I were married, it seemed to always be a contest with him, because he had to be the better parent. We were hardly ever on the same page in raising our kids. During our divorce, he used them as pawns to hurt me, something I will never forgive...and I will never forget his statement that he WILL "WIN" THEM away from me, as if they were to be his prize in hurting me. Knowing all that I know about this man through the divorce, I wish so much that he was not a part of their lives, but for them, because I know what it is like to live without a father, I suffer through to get along...only for them. But now, all they want is their father....I don't think I have read one story, or know one person where this situation exists, and I don't understand. I try so hard not to take it personally, but it hurts me to tears...so much...they are my everything and I don't know what to do about this situation....and also, it kills me that he thrives in seeing me in pain when this occurs...it bothers me that instead of providing support, he clings to the fact that our children want to be with just him. I get so frightened, that he is teaching them that treating your mother like this is okay...