Please, some advise for a young woman

Kelli - posted on 09/12/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




I am a mother of a very good 3 year old boy, a full time college student, a stay at home mom, a wife, and a babysitter. That's where the problem lies. I promised a neighbor that I would babysit her precious daughter (9) after school. She pays me $25 a week. I have just discovered that this little girl has ADHD. This deprives attention from my son. The school year just started, and I am becoming overwhelmed, but feel obligated to my promise. I am so lost. Please help. My family expects me to just abandon post.


Chet - posted on 09/13/2014




The school year just started. Things could improve. You could talk to the nine year old's parents about how to best manage her behaviour. In time, you'll certainly be able to work out your own strategies too. Maybe find activities the nine year old can do with your son (like read to him, or play with him like a mother's helper), or maybe you could all go to the playground together. Often people find difficult kids are easier outside doing something active.

This isn't necessarily a bad experience for your son either. It's hard to say without knowing how demanding the 9 year old is. But if it's really too much it's fair to give her parents notice. You can explain that you feel you aren't able to do a good job, and that they should try to someone who can better care for their daughter. You're just spread too thin with two children of such different ages.

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