pls ne advice for my 11 yr old girl

Vanessa - posted on 07/20/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My daughter recently went on vacation to portugal with her uncle and his wife etc. 2 see grandma i bought her a book "all about my body" for reading material her uncle recorded her talking to her friends on facetime about blowjobs when they got back uncle told his sister and sister told me of course she had suggestions 2 punish her ughh when i talk 2 her she says i told my friend bout it cuz it was on the book and we were talking now my question should punish her? I of course talked to her and told her theres is a place a time 4 everything and she has ne question she should ask mom and dad am i being too soft

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Vanessa - posted on 07/20/2015

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Yeah i guess u right i will think she would have waited shes such a mature and very intellectual girl shes a str8 A student gifted and talented program i overstimaded her....sometimes i forget she is only 11 yrs old l thank you 4 being honest and letting me see the problem

Jodi - posted on 07/20/2015

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Yeah, I just saw that, thanks Shawnn.

"i even said that in my blog id she had ne question 2 ask mom or dad"

And as I said, you gave her a book and then weren't there for the questions.

Why not just face it - this was probably not the best reading material to give to a child when she was heading off on a vacation with other people rather than defending your choice? I made no assumptions - you DID just give her a book and send her on her merry way. Just because you'd already talked about sex beforehand doesn't change that.

".my question was if i was being soft for Not punishin her"

And my response was why would you punish her for something YOU probably shouldn't have done in the first place?

And why are you referring to your child as "Shawn"? Or is your post just super confusing?

Vanessa - posted on 07/20/2015

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Assumptions!!of course i talked to shawn way before this i will never just gave her a book to find something thats so important without talking to her my Point is was i being too soft on her for not punishing her and just talk to her and find out why was she even talkin like that ...

Vanessa - posted on 07/20/2015

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Of course we talked bout it sex before especially because she had her period when she was 9 and is developing quite fast i gave her the book so she can educate herself just in case i missed something i would never just give a book and "go on her merry way" assumptions r the mother of all fk ups now this is exactly what i mean ppl just assume.....btw i even said that in my blog id she had ne question 2 ask mom or dad and everything has a time a place.....my question was if i was being soft for Not punishin her

Jodi - posted on 07/20/2015

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This is not the kind of reading material you should be providing a young girl without being there to talk to her about it. Sex education should not come in books. It should come from you in CONJUNCTION with tools such as a book. Why would you punish her when you just supplied her with a book and sent her on her merry way to figure it out for herself? If she has any questions she should ask mum and dad? But you weren't THERE!! That's the problem here. Of course she turned to her friends to discuss sex....there was noone else she felt comfortable talking too.

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