Plzz help My 15 months old baby cheerful suddenly turn to crying baby :(

Anisha - posted on 04/10/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My lil one suddenly became a very very crying baby, she was very playful
Bt from the d past week she became very crying like for my attention or if she
Needs her ball or anythin. She just cry for e erythin.. M very worried Caus my
Husband works til late n I have to manage her alone, I do t knw how can I
Ease her or make her feel happy. Plzz help me because its very painful to
See her cryi g all the time n m not able to sooth her.. :(

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Samara - posted on 04/10/2013

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Good morning! I have a 2-year old and a 1-year old, both boys; I know exactly what you're going through. My oldest went through and is still currently going through the same thing. My husband calls it "baby puberty" where they are just realizing their independence, but still want to know that you're there if they need you.

Here are some things that work for me:
1. If you're not calm, baby won't be either. Your toddler can sense when you're losing your composure. Children feed off of our energy. If your child is fussy, look at if you're stressed, depressed, tired, sad, or even impatient. These are all moods that will change their behavior. They may act out as a response to how you're doing; we carried them for 9 months and if you breastfed then you're extremely close. They want to feel secure.
2. Around 15m, they cannot fully communicate what their needs are, however they do know what they want. So instead of politely or calmly getting our attention, they will throw tantrums or crying fits if that will get your attention...and just think how frustrating it must be to not be able to say exactly what you want.
3. Positive affirmation and Redirection are your best friends when dealing with toddlers. My husband makes my sons say things like "I'm the man or I'm okay" when they're crying. For some reason, they straighten up. We always shower them with compliments and correction! If they start to get rowdy, redirect them to something else. They get bored very easily.
4. If my oldest throws a fit, I ask him "What do you need? How can mommy help you?" He usually tells me or takes me to what he wants. If the tantrum persists, sometimes I walk away and it stops or we do time-out and I explain to him to use his words instead of crying.
5. Structure. Daily routine. Toddlers need consistency. Whenever I do things out of our normal routine, if it's too different, my sons respond. If you need ideas for things to do, just google search "activities for toddlers" and try some until you find some winners.
6. Know that sometimes, there's nothing you can do. Make sure they aren't hungry, in pain, or have wet/soiled diaper. After that, put them in their crib for 5-10 minutes, shut the door, and YOU go to another room to collect yourself. Take some deep breaths. Think of what your're going to do once you pick them up. Keep her busy. Don't let her always keep you busy.

I hope this helps. I have tons of ideas, but I don't know the entire scenario. Let me know if I can clarify anything or give some more suggestions. I'm only 23 so Google is my best resource. When in doubt, I find articles to read. :-) Apply and revise! Every child is different.

Samara - posted on 04/12/2013

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Honestly, sometimes we just need to talk to someone in those moments. I will totally give you my number or inbox me yours if this messaging is time consuming. We moms need as much support as we can get!

Samara - posted on 04/12/2013

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Glad some of it helped. I am pretty straight forward at this point in life... So I'm wondering why do you want her to detach from you so badly? Think of it this way, it's only a phase. Pretty soon, you'll wish that she even cared you were home! She won't want you to hold her or anything ;-) We taught our son to play independently by showing how all his toys work and playing with him. Eventually he got it. Hate to say it, but our children are a lot like us. My son likes to play alone probably because my husband and I are both to ourselves, not clingy types. After all , what wrong with you playing with her? Being mommy is your best investment... Now the crying when you leave the room is normal. Always make it a habit to tell her where you're going and that you'll be back. Tell her what's going on throughout the day. It'll make her feel more secure and like "a big girl" since mommy is talking to her like a big girl. The more she has to do, the more independent she will be. If you need to take a shower, put her in her crib with a few toys, a dry diaper, and hurry up! I can attest to not showering for the sake of being on mommy duty. Maybe you'll have to revise your schedule and shower at night or wake up earlier in the morning. Hang in there!!!!!

I read that children also get anxiety for lots of reasons. Remember, it's a phase. Honestly- it's not your job to make your child happy ALL the time. It's to make sure she's well taken care of. If you're doing that, pat yourself on the back, and let her cry-it won't kill her. You just have to have the patience to endure this season!!! :-) The fact that you're asking for help is a big start! You got it....... Hey crazy thought. How close is she to dad? Maybe she misses him while he's at work.

Tyla - posted on 04/10/2013

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Its a phase. Kids become over sensitive for a while. There is not much you can do. You can ignore her when she cries for a toy since she is 15 months I assume she can walk or crawl so she can get a toy herself. I would make her do things herself

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Anisha - posted on 04/14/2013

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Hii samara, If ur fine thn inbox me ur num n wil cal u or text u on tht,
If thts fine??

Anisha - posted on 04/14/2013

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Hey Samara thanx again, ur truelly rite, it's just a phase n may b I
Needed some1 to talk u can understand my situation n can give advice
Suitable to it.. I don't want to detach her completely bt stil need some time
For myself too, hope m not being selfish mum.. She is stil breastfeeding n I want to wean her Bt she is very mch attached to me, so m worried tht
It wil b difficult for us to stop breastfeeding.. N wil also try ur advice like talk to her like a big girl n wil Inform her everytime Whn I leave d room..

Anisha - posted on 04/11/2013

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Samara smit : hey thank u so mch 4 sharing ur experience wid me. My senario is like I always try
To b calm wid her but sometimes it's hard for me to understand her
As she utter few words, m blank.. I tried to keep her busy wid bag full
Of soft toys thn other drawer with plastic cups n al . Bt along wid tht she
Wants me there to b wid her.. As soon as m out of her sight , she starts
Crying. I can't take shower by closing d door.. She was not like dis before
Bt now she wants me 24/7.. How can I reduce her lil attachment from me??

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