Pooping on the potty?

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I have a 4 1/2 year old boy who will not poop on the toilet. He will poop in his pants or in a diaper at night. He has no accidents with peeing. Help

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Karen - posted on 03/12/2011

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Ahhh I am in the same boat and he just turned 5 last week. It is making me crazy that I can't help him figure this out. He was late peeing on the potty too. I have tried bribery and now he loses all his computer, TV, Wii, DS priveldges for the whole day - it matters not to him AT ALL!! I just don't get it. I am so worried come Sept that they won't let him in school because of this. He did is twice months ago because he was in the bath and had to poop. I have kept his clothes off of him - he just popped on the floor. I just tried having him practice and sit all kinds of ways on the toilet to he is comfortable with it. I am so stressed about this - I don't know what to do.
I feel like I can't visit anywhere or take him anywhere with this issue. I am just setting up new babysitters and told them the situation but worry they won't babysit more than once if they have to deal with this.....

Johanna - posted on 01/04/2009

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I like Cherie Kaplans idea of picking special underwear that they might not want to ruin getting poop on. That is a great idea. Also picking a book at the bookstore to have at the potty is a great idea she mentions at her daycare having books for the boys. I LOVE that idea.

Johanna - posted on 01/04/2009

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This is just like my friend last year. Her son would do the exact same thing. He would wear underwear until he wanted to poop. He was 3 almost 4 and her husband very frustrated as I am sure you two are told his son, " I will take you to the Toy Store and you can get whatever you want (and of course whatever does have boundaries but he didn't know that) if you poop in the potty. Well Easter Sunday comes. The whole family is visiting and they are chilling and all of a sudden their son is yelling on the potty..."I POOOOOPED" and everyone gives cheers and shouts of joy and he is just beaming. Dad grabs the son and they get in the car and drive off to the Toy Store. Well it was Easter Sunday and guess what?? EVERYTHING IS CLOSED....almost a disater but dad found a store open for like one more hour and they got him a toy. After that, he pooped in the potty, no accidents and it was just like light switch. If you don't want to use a toy then try something else that might work for motivation.

Good Luck.

My two boys where early potty trained and it was because of day care honestly. I did not experience your situation but my friends situation is just like yours. Her son REFUSED to even sit on the potty in fear he might accidently go poop. He would pee no problem and no accidents just like you.



GOOD LUCK!!!

Sam - posted on 01/04/2009

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luckily my son has never really had a problem with using the toilet for a poo.. i used to just ask him to try and have a poo on the toilet like the big boy he is, i have always found that it works. lots of praise was given aswell so he always knows that he has done a good thing xx good luck

Michele - posted on 01/04/2009

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I am in the same boat with my 3 1/2 year old. I didn't put diapers on him for a long time and he would go as far as five days without pooping. We ended up having to give him a suppository to help him. I don't want him to get sick. I put in back in pull ups a couple of days ago and he has gone every day since. Grrr!!! We can't have a "poop time" cause he has never been regular. I put him on a potty off and on all day and he still won't go. I believing that when it is time he will do it on his own. He knows what to do but just is not comfortable. So, Megan, I feel your pain! :)

My oldest, I never had any problem with. LOL!

Abbey - posted on 01/04/2009

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have u tried a potty? i have heard that some kids get scared or just don't like to go on the actual toilet b/c it splashes them.

Jennifer - posted on 01/04/2009

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omg ,i went through the same thing with my 6 yr old son at that same age....it will happen...he will eventually get it....there are really no special cures but it will happen..and having them sit on the toilet often with a book helped my other son to go on the toilet..he use to beg for a diaper cuz he had to poop...

Elizabeth - posted on 01/04/2009

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The only thing that worked for me was turning my son around so he faces the tank on the toilet. I don't know why it worked or how I thought of it, but it worked after one try!

Becky - posted on 01/04/2009

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I had the same issue with my daughter. One day my husband suggested we have a party for her poopies when they found their way to the potty. That same day she pooped in the potty and hasn't stopped. We had to spend a few weeks dancing around the living room wearing party hats every time she pooped but it was well worth it.

Antonia - posted on 01/04/2009

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Plenty of praise is what he needs. Sit him on the toilet throughout the day, and tell him that he can poop there. Leave him, perhaps with books to read while he sits for up to about half an hour at a time, and even if he doesn't go, praise him for trying and for sitting on the toilet.

A friend of mine tried this with her 4 yr old and within a few weeks he he began pooping in the toilet. Good luck

Dana - posted on 01/03/2009

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My son had the same issue until just a few weeks before school. I was so worried they would tell me he cou;dn't be in school....what worked for me was the underwear thing....I don't wash poopy underwear....they get thrown out. I would put the ones he liked on and that seemed to help. The other thing was straight up bribery....my son loves hotwheels and they are cheapa nd sold everywhere.

I did finally get my son to tell me what the issue was....atleast for him HE COULDN"T REACH TO WIPE, and the little he could he DIDN'T WANT TO GET HIS HANDS DIRTY!! So, that was solved with bringing baby wipes everywhere for him to use in the bathroom. we even kept a tub stashed behind the toilet at daycare. I explained to him if he poops and doesn't wipe well or even at all it was better than pooping in his pants and he wouldn't be punished for "streaks" in his pants. I also promised if there was no poop (just streaks) his favorite undies would get washed.



GOOD LUCK!!

User - posted on 01/03/2009

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one thing that worked for my son was putting him in "boxers" it didnt feel like a diaper and within a week he was using the toilet

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These are all great suggestions! I will let you all know how they work out for us! Thanks so much!

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One thing we tried is having a gumball machine with gumballs in it. If he went poop in the potty, he could put a penny in the gumball machine and have a gumball--a special treat not usually allowed. He loved it and still does. We got this idea from a friend with a boy similar age.

Heather - posted on 01/03/2009

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I used to soak raisins in water so they would get big and plump. Then, when we'd sit our daugher on the toilet for "poop" time, we'd put her favorite teddy bear on a little toilet we made (tupperware) so they could go potty together. I'd slip the raisins in the teddy bear's potty when she wasn't looking. She was amazed that teddy pooped in the potty. It made her want to poop in the potty too. And it made it less scary.

Jackie - posted on 01/03/2009

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I had the same problem with my daughter who is now 7. She would poo her knickers all the time and it didn't seem to worry her at all. I was worried she would do it when she started school. I spoke to the school about it and they told me not to worry they would deal with it if needed. I don't know what changed but once she started school she stopped pooing her pants. She still wets the bed at night but that's another problem she will eventually get over.

Cherie - posted on 01/03/2009

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I ran several pre-schools and when we were potty training, especially boys, we would sit them on the toilet backwards with a book on the tank top. It helped them feel secure and not like they were going to "fall in". We also asked the parents to let their kids pick out their own "special" underwear that they would not want to get messy. It worked for my son and my girlfriends but sometimes it just takes time.

Michelle - posted on 01/03/2009

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I had the same problem with my little boy he was completely terrified of pooping in his potty or in the toilet, My only advice is to make nothing of it when he poops in his pants or nappy at night. I also took him to the toilet with me (sounds a littkle extreme but it worked)and made such a big deal of what a goog girl i was because i pooped in the toilet he found this great and soon started to follow suit. hope this helps.

User - posted on 01/03/2009

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I have the exact same problem with my 3 1/2 year old son and pooping. He will only poop in his diaper or pants...... Our pediatrician said to let him poop in his diaper but have him sit in the bathroom while he is doing it. This will help him associate pooping and toilets. Its so frustrating I know!

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My son is already in preschool and has had a few accidents there. It is pretty embarrassing! We have, until this point, not tried to push it and let him do it on his own. I think my greatest concern is having this continue until 5 or longer. Not to mention any problems he could develop from holding it until he gets a diaper on.

Gina - posted on 01/03/2009

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My son is 3 1/2 has gone to teh toilet a few times to do the poop! Like you we have no problems peeing...he goes out with underwear and never has accidents...only will poop in his pull up or his underwear at home....everyone says just leave them they will do it when they are ready...my concern is my son starts school in September and if he isn't going on the toilet he will hold it in all day until he gets home...I have friends that told me their child does that...

Jennifer - posted on 01/03/2009

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We scheduled a "poop time" for my 3 year old. He has been pooping on the potty for about 6 months now with no accidents. Everynight after he gets out of the bath we have "poop time" he sits there with several books and sits there until he goes. Be patient. He sometimes would sit there 30-45 min. before going. It trained his body to poop at a specific time of day and it began coming more easily after a few months. Now we just ask him and give him a choice if he needs to go after bathtime or not. He now knows his body much better and is an "independent pooper!"

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