Halee - posted on 09/02/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am 22 and legally separated. My ex and I share custody of our 2 1/2 year old son. I have been dating a new guy for almost a year now and he is amazing with my son. He is still adjusting to the change in lifestyle but is adapting well. A few mornings ago his ex-girlfriend called him and said she was making a will. She has been having medical issues and wants him to care for her son (not his child) if something happens to her. He has been there for most of the child's life and helped raise him. He told her he would be guardian if necessary. I know he cares more for this child than he does mine simply because he was there for most of the important milestones: formula, solid foods, crawling, walking, talking, etc. My son had already done most of that before my boyfriend came into the picture. I am not sure how to feel about this situation. Granted, he will only be guardian IF something happens to his ex but it's just the idea that makes me uneasy. First of all, we already have an interesting situation with my legal separation and adjusting to life as a new extended family. But to throw another child that isn't mine nor his into the mix? How should react to that? I know it is not the child's fault but my first instinct is jealously and maternal protection for my own son. I need advice. I love my boyfriend but I'm not sure if I'm ready for this.