"Possibly adopting and i am needing HELP'

April - posted on 12/22/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am 33 years old and I have no children. At the age of 31 I had to have a full Hysterectomy. I have a friend that has 3 children, one who is 6 and lives with his dad, and a 2 and 1 year old that lives with her and their dad. Well.. She is 36 weeks pregnant and wants me and my fiancé to adopt this one. However,, I am currently active on the kidney transplant list which means that at any time I could be called for transplant. do I want to adopt her ABSOLUTELY..My heart says yes,,yes,,yes... But my brain says can I do this while on dialysis and also waiting for transplant?? I have a huge support from my fiancé and our families, but I am back and fourth. The day she told me she was pregnant she immediately asked if I wanted to adopt! if I don't I believe she will let someone else do it! Is this my only chance to have a child?? Am I just being paranoid?? She has already asked me to bring her home from the hospitail! she doesn't even want to take her home! Where do I even start to adopt? Social Services?? Court house? please help me ladies....
Sincerely Stressed out and Confused!!!

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Sarah - posted on 12/22/2015

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April if you have good support and you desire to parent, then I would pursue adopting the baby. However, you must do it legally or you risk your friend changing her mind or the father of the baby changing his mind. Being on the transplant list and even post transplant will limit your options for adoption thru an agency. It is not likely that an open adoption candidate would choose parents with severe health risks, so your friend is offering a great gift. A closed adoption, or international adoption agency would likely not even take you until you are several years post transplant. Is your fiance prepared to parent alone in the event you should not survive? is your friend 100 percent sure she can live with the situation? I don't mean to be negative but those are realities that must be considered.

Michelle - posted on 12/22/2015

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One that specializes in family law, or even adoption. Ring around and ask them. They will let you know over the phone if they can help you or not.

Michelle - posted on 12/22/2015

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Get yourself a lawyer, they will know the correct way to go about it where you live.

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