Potty training

Linda - posted on 08/18/2013 ( 33 moms have responded )

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My 3 yr old granddaughter is giving her mom a fit over potty training any suggestions on ideas we have
tried sevral

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Rayseanna - posted on 08/27/2013

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Hi my name is Rayseanna, I have been training kids on potty for over twenty years my suggestions is first put your grand daughter on real under clothes no pull-ups talk to her about the bathroom how of a big girl she is going to be & reward her with things when does well but when she have an accident don't change her right away let her skin be just a little irritate for about five minutes & she will be train in three days guaranteed

Tracy - posted on 08/28/2013

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A five year old having to cleanup after himself is a lot different than making a three year old mop the floor and hand wash his underwear. My five year old certainly knows/understands a lot more than a three year old. Three year old children don't understand cause/effect yet. Hence my response to Denize when she said she made her three year old mop the floor and hand wash his underwear. I think love and understanding is a huge part of potty training. You cannot force them before they are ready, discipline and yelling doesn't help. It will only make things more traumatic.

Sandra - posted on 08/20/2013

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Any tips how to get my 4 year old stop pooping his pants he will go to pee pee by himself but won't go the other I've tried everything and just need some advice plzz

Ashleigh - posted on 09/16/2013

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Hi I am a preschool teacher of 3-5 yr olds and my toilet training technique is pretty successful from my experience. First thing is patience and do not yell when they have an accident as it can scare them.
1) for the first hour take the child every 10 mins to the toilet and sit them on there in between the 10 mins offer plenty of water so they need to go
2) in the 2nd hour take them every 15mins to sit on the toilet
3) every half an hour sit them on
4) then hourly
It takes routine make sure mum had the time to invest into toilet training every day for a week they won't use the toilet every time you sit them down

Tracy - posted on 08/27/2013

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Sorry Denize, but that just seems mean. A 3 year old doesn't understand the point you are trying to make. I would never do that. You can't rush them, and you have to be consistent. Positive reinforcement.

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TIA - posted on 08/28/2013

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when my little guy was 5 he started peeing on the bathroom floor. he waited until it was too late (for control) to go because he was playing video games. after letting him clean the floor a couple times his aim improved.

Denize - posted on 08/27/2013

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We got our 3 year old boy to embrace the potty by making him mop the floors and hand wash his underwear. Then to reinforce, we used the Potty Bear chart: http://www.nationalautismresources.com/i...

I got the No More Diapers book by Create a Book with his name in it and read it at potty time.

After 2 weeks we were fine.

Jennifer - posted on 08/27/2013

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Unfortunately you can't rush them. With both my children (now ages 8 and 9) I tried everything - rewards, stickers, charts, praise...you name it, I tried it. They just would NOT go on the potty...until it was on their terms. I used to joke and say that they would be wearing diapers to kindergarten. The biggest thing for them was when they were moving up to 4K in their pre-school. The 4K wouldn't allow anyone who was not potty trained. So, I explained that they would have to stay in the younger class while all of their friends moved up. (Especially for my oldest - when she found out she might have to stay back in her brother's classroom...she started going potty on her own VERY quickly). So...I wish I had some good advice, but hang in there...they will go on their own when they are ready.
Sorry - I got one more. They have some really cute potty videos out there (one is an Elmo video) and it explains about how everyone potties - very cute video. :)

Yenelva - posted on 08/27/2013

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I trainned my daughter with chocolate. Pee in the potty and get one hershey kiss, poop and get two. Then little by little we started reducing the amount of chocolate until she was fully trained.

TIA - posted on 08/26/2013

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I SAT HIM ON THE TOILET FOR A LONG TIME WITH A SNACK. FOR A WEEK HE SPENT A LONG TIME ON IT. THEN WHEN HE FINALLY LAID A LITTLE PEBBLE I CALLED MY BROTHERS HOUSE AND ASKED ONE OF THE GUYS TO PRETEND TO BE SUPER MAN. I SAID SOME ONE WANTS TO TALK TO U. HE SAID TO MY LITTLE GUY, "I HEARD YOU POOPED IN THE TOILET! I POOP IN THE TOILET TOO!"

IT WORKED LIKE U WONT BELIEVE

Nomvula - posted on 08/26/2013

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Wow. Tracy that's very creative. I've come up with system that Im hoping it would work, tonight its our 2nd night potty training @ night. Putting up the rewards chart. she wants to sleep wearing her favorite Leggings so deal is no nappy so far we are agreeing. Its waking up the@ night that s traumatising me.

Tracy - posted on 08/26/2013

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My daughter is now 5, and potty trained at 2.5 completely. She did great with pee, but not so much with poop. So we told her when she went in the potty 3 times in a row. (poop) we would have a poo poo party. We got balloons, wrapped up a few pairs of underwear and even had the grocery store write "poo poo party" on a cake and make a piece of poo out of fudge. We let her blow out the candles, and had my in-laws over to join the celebration. Kids that age LOVE parties! We have a 15 month old, and when the time comes, we will do this for her too. You can even call it a "potty party" to include doing everything on the potty.
Good luck!!

LIZ - posted on 08/25/2013

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Only let her watch television or DVD's if she complies and uses the potty or toilet. A bit of bribery can work if you stick to the rules. Good luck. X

Nomvula - posted on 08/25/2013

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@Helen.thank u. Im done with the pull-ups & they are expensive as well. Im sorted during the day its @ night where we seem to to be having serious challenges. Its getting warmer in Joburg so will start the chart reward system.

Helen - posted on 08/25/2013

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we're in the middle of getting our 2 year old out of nappies.
I worked for many years in daycare and have seen/used many different ways of doing this as we tried to stick to the parents way of training as much as possible.

For us the best way to tackle this is at the childs pace and without stress! We go the half naked route - he has nothing on his lower half so it is easier to use potty (which is in the sitting room for easy access - as he gets better it gets left in the downstairs toilet out the way, but he knows where it is when he needs it). He is doing really well at the moment, so next step is putting underpants on him, then trousers.
Fingers crossed he'll be mostly dry soon (would like him to be dry before he starts daycare in September).

Don;t know if you've tried this way. Works for us, but not everyone would be happy with this method.
Personally I don't like pull-ups; I find they are too much like diapers and the children just use them rather than going to the toilet.

Nomvula - posted on 08/24/2013

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Im struggling to ge my daughter off nappies @ night. During the day no nappies, after tried everything besides the chart. Will try it for sure.

Melynda - posted on 08/24/2013

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If u try everything and she's just not willing then stop. Pick it back up a few weeks later. My daughter took a break after i tried everything in the book. After a break i felt reenergized And had a positive additude she was using the potty shortly after

Sandra - posted on 08/24/2013

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I'm day 5 and reward chart is helping and he put his own sticker on and I say to him nannie very proud of him took a long time to get him this far hard work but i wouldnt give up hope this helps anyone who Aving same problem Good luck

Margarita - posted on 08/23/2013

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Every kid is different, and I don't know what you've tried (it always seems like you've tried everything). It all depends on whether or not she's ready and whether or not she sees the need. My daughter was in the second category and not even the cute kinds of underwear we picked out together in the store, nor getting wet, etc. seemed to matter. For her, it was good old peer pressure. She really wanted to go to preschool to play with other kids her age (only child) and the township preschool wouldn't take her if she wasn't potty trained. I took her with me to look at a whole bunch that would take her and keep her with kids her age (some will hold them back and keep them with a younger group until they are potty trained). All it took was her seeing one school where a bunch of kids her age sat at the potty with a few others waiting in line for their turn, and that was the night she asked to use the potty (versus me asking her!). So she got to got the township preschool after all.

Sandra, I had tried explaining the consequences of holding it in (tummy pain and pooping pain) and of the painful rash she got when this caused accidents. If those don't work, a different bribery might be in order. My daughter wanted to go swimming, but a potty accident in a pool is a major problem (they have to empty and re-shock the pool), so she couldn't go in the pool if she had any accidents. We went on a weekly basis (no accidents between swim lessons or she wouldn't get to go swimming). She missed her very first lesson after getting to go to open swim the week before. Didn't have another accident all summer, but just started holding it again. Will have to look into fall lessons... For some, like my daughter, it's control, and the fact that they'd rather play than have to spend time on the potty. For others, there's a fear of getting splashed, etc. I've heard of putting a piece of toilet paper across the seat to "catch" it before they get off. You can try and see if that helps.
Happy potty training!

Vickie - posted on 08/23/2013

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The easiest time I've had was with my youngest. First we introduced his potty seat, just put it in the bathroom and suggested he try to go in it when he was naked before his bath. Then on his third birthday I said "okay, you're a big boy now, no more diapers." and put them away. The first few days I had him not wear anything at all, then after he got that down we worked on wearing just underwear, then worked our way up to pants. Of course this only works if you're going to be home. He was trained in about a week and a half. Nighttime took longer, but we were working with some other anxiety issues at the same time so I didn't push it.

Amy - posted on 08/23/2013

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I used an egg timer for my son. I set it to go off every 15-20 mins to start and then longer after the first couple weeks. He was potty trained within a month or so.

Homi111us - posted on 08/23/2013

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try to sit her on camode only 2 to 3 mint after that give her 1 loly pop or candy....don't insist do pop or peep.....give her time...

Sandra - posted on 08/23/2013

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Ive started using rewards charts and stickers now and it's helping a lot everytime he's gose I praise him and he put sticker on chart and he even asking me to take him only since I've started rewards day 4 of doing this hope this helps took a long time and patience but finally getting there now

Karen - posted on 08/23/2013

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I agree, as Sally said, the more you push, the more they will resist. With my youngest in particular I tried everything, cool undies, bribes, etc. until one day I realized that I did not like who I was turning into about potty training. I backed off and eventually it all worked out. He was about 3 1/2 and was completely trained, day & night, no accidents. In the grand scheme of things, it really isn't worth stressing over. I realize there are often other issues of having to get trained for daycare, etc, but still it really is the only thing they are in complete control of, you cannot "make" them go.

Meriona - posted on 08/22/2013

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My mother told me that my older sister was like that until she bought her some very pretty ruffled underpants (do they still make them?) and then she immediately stopped wetting the bed, etc. and potty trained herself. My sister's grandson is also 3 and is not potty trained but the difference is, his parents don't want to train him and won't let her even though she babysits almost every day. She thinks he should be going to pre-school when his older brother goes back to school as he has no other friends but they won't accept a child that isn't trained......go figure!

Cheryl - posted on 08/22/2013

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My two daughters are 3 years apart. They were completely trained by 2 yrs. old. Almost every day during the summer we were in the yard playing or swimming. I had them in bathing suits (tank top style and bottoms) almost every day. I left a kids potty chair outside in a private corner of the yard. I would frequently ask "Do you have to go potty?" and point to the potty. They thought it was a game. By the end of the summer they were trained.
When we were in the house, and they "went" in their pottychair, we'd empty their little deposits in the big toilet and they'd say "bye, bye" as we flushed.
No doubt it's work. It's more work for the parent to be consistent in gently asking (with a smile on your face) and then taking the child over to the potty chair and making it fun for them.

TIA - posted on 08/20/2013

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IF IT IS POSSIBLE WHERE U LIVE OR U KNOW SOME ONE THAT HAS A GOOD PLACE TO DO THIS...TRY LETTING THEM RUN AROUND IN THE YARD NAKED. WHEN THEY HAVE TO GO THEY NOTICE THE PEE AND GET TO RECOGNIZE THE SENSATION OF HAVING TO PEE.

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PUT HER IN UNDERWEAR SO SHE GETS THAT UNCOMFORTABLE FEELING OF BEING WET. SOMETIME THIS ONE WORKS AND SOMETIMES IT DOESN'T.

ALSO KEEP IN MIND THAT POTTY TRAINING HAS A LOT TO DO WITH PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT OF THE KIDNEYS AND SUCH. NO AMOUNT OF BRIBING OR PUNISHMENT WILL CHANGE ANYTHING.

NO NEED TO WORRY ABOUT IT UNTIL SHE IS OLDER. THE BEST THING IS TO ENCOURAGE AND NOT CREATE A BIGGER PROBLEM BY GETTING STRESSED OUT ABOUT IT. KIDS SENSE THE TENSION AND GET ALL WORKED UP THEMSELVES. BEST OF LUCK TO YOU BOTH AND HANG IN THERE!

Sally - posted on 08/20/2013

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The fastest, easiest way to potty train any child is to wait until they are ready. If you wait until she is ready it will only take a few days and little to no effort on your part. The more you push it before she is ready, the longer it will take and the more it will stress both of you out. If she responds well to bribery, that can help, but if she likes to do things on her own terms, pushing it is only going to cause fights even if she is ready. Eating and excreting are the only things a small child does that mommy really cannot control and getting into power struggles over them can cause lifetime health problems if the child is strong willed enough. In my opinion, a few more diapers is a small price to pay to avoid that.
For what it's worth, my oldest showed readiness signs at 18 months so we got out the potty, showed her how it worked, and left it alone. She got panties for her second birthday and stopped having accidents (except when sick) by 3. My younger showed readiness signs at 18 months but changed her mind when we got out the potty and got excited; did the same at 2 years, 2 1/2 years, and 3 years. At 3 1/2 years, she asked to use the potty and was accident free within a week.
Good luck

Heather - posted on 08/20/2013

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For Kids This Is Now One Of The Few Things They Know They Can Control. Get Her Excited By Doing Things Like Taking Her Undies Doing And Let Her Pick Out Her Own. Also We Have A Goal Every Time We Put Undies On Her By Saying ThingsLike, Ok Don't Pee On The Dog. It Took A Few Weeks But She Finally Got It. We Also Hung A Piece Of Paper In The Bathroom For Stickers. One Sticker For Pee And Two For Poop. We Are Working On Night Time Now And Giving A Lollipop If She Makes It All Night Without Going In Her Bed, Or For Waking Us When She Has To Go In The Night. Good Luck With Everything.

Gena - posted on 08/19/2013

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We got our son a real cool potty,it looks like a little toilet it has flush that makes flushing sound (doesnt realy flush) and a toilet roll holder.What also works well is to sing Pee pee in the potty when he did it.We clap hands and sing and tell him great job. Just try to make it fun and not force her to sit on the potty.When my son first peed on the floor he came running to me and said "Oh dear,why did he do this?looking at his penis..i will never forget that.We also cleaned the mess up together and i explained to him that he must sit on the potty when he needs to and that its okay if an accident happens.

Diana - posted on 08/18/2013

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Make it fun! Give stickers or anything else she likes for going on the potty. For my son, when he would pee on the floor instead, whether by accident or not we would clean it up together and made it known that wasn't acceptable. Worked well for us!

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