Potty Training at 21 Months

Jennifer - posted on 04/04/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




Before posting this I did a search and didn't find an answer specific to my case so here I am asking what probably seems silly.

I feel like my 21 month old daughter may be ready for potty training. I've spent several months familiarizing her with the potty using books, letting her watch me go, having her sit on her potty too while I go, asking her to tell me if she went pee pee in her diaper when it's wet before I go and change her to encourage her to tell me before going (still working on that one).

Now I know a lot of people say that skipping the pullups and going for real underwear is the way to go but I just don't feel like that's our style and I'd rather use pull ups with her if I can. That said, I've been using them for the last few days, taking her to the bathroom about every 45 minutes and having her sit there for 5-10 minutes and asking her repeatedly to go pee pee and telling her if she goes pee pee in the potty I'll give her M&M's (her favorite candy) and/or whatever else it is she's demanding in the moment.

My husband and I both feel confidant that our daughter is very smart and if we can just get her to go once she'll catch on and the rest will be a piece of cake. I'm well aware this is not the case for everyone especially in Pull Ups but she LOVES rewards so I just need the opportunity to give it to her.

My issue is actually GETTING her to wiz on that damn piece of plastic the FIRST time! She's happy to sit there, happy to learn about it, but I just cannot get her to actually go. I've tried encouraging using the tssss sound that she hears when she watches me go, and I've tried dripping (and even spraying with a spray bottle) cold water on her hoping it would give her the urge to go.

Again, I really feel like she's ready if we can just get her to go once, but does anyone have any tips, ideas, suggestions for how to urge her to go that FIRST time despite everything else I've tried?


Chrystal - posted on 04/04/2012




We are in the process of potty training our 22 month old son. What we did was take off his diaper and hand him his usual sippy cup full of water and kept sending him to the potty every hour or when he'd start to go. Took 3 days but he went in the potty for the first time and again 2 more times that day. He'll go about 30% of the time now and is telling me every time he goes potty in his diaper which for his age we think is good we don't want to push him to hard. If he doesn't feel like sitting on the potty that day after a few attempts I don't make him and I just put a diaper on him so he doesn't get discouraged by the accidents. If you can't get her to go then maybe back off for a few weeks she may not be ready just yet and it'll keep you from burning out on training. Good luck


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You could leave her naked until she starts to pee somewhere. Otherwise, doesn't really sound like she's ready.

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