Potty training boys

Lindsey - posted on 01/11/2009 ( 43 moms have responded )

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I have a 3 year old boy that has no interest in potty training, any suggestions?

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Alana - posted on 01/12/2009

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the most important thing is dont force them,wait until you think they are ready. and try not to bribe them with sweets or toys or they will expect it every time they go to the toilet and its not very healthy. the other important thing is, once you start, dont go back, if your child is in a nappy one minute and then pants the next they will get confused. so once the training is started and no nappies are on, leave it that way!even if you go out dont put them in a nappy, just take a couple of clean pairs of pants and trousers and take a potty with you. All i did with my son was on the day of his 2nd birthday i took him out of his nappy and let him run around with nothing on his bottom half, every time he started to wee i picked him up and put him on the toilet.if he had an accident on the floor i didn't tell him off just let him no that a toilet is where you should do this,and everytime he went on the potty i gave him lots of praise (and kisses and cuddles).after 2 days had passed he was going to the toilet on his own and wearing underwear! after 4 days he had no more acidents at all even if we went out.But dont worry if it takjes some time, aparently boys take longer to pick it up. hope i have helped :) xx

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Cherie - posted on 10/02/2011

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My boys are 3 1/2 (yes twins) and still not potty trained. They know when they have to go cause they tell me. Months ago I tried trainng them they did go on the potty and stopped. I made areally big deal out of it and did the whole M&M thing, nothing is working. So this time I thought I would try again and still nothing. I know once you start your not suppose to go back. This time there are no diapers only big boy underwear, even at sleep time and going out in public. I understand this is just a stage. Any suggestions??

Sonda - posted on 02/21/2011

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HI i have a 21 month old and i want to start potty training him. My 4 year old wasn't potty trained til he was around 3 and i think that is whats going to happen with my 21 month old he wont be potty trained until then either

Kenna - posted on 02/15/2011

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Anyone just read the Potty Training 101 Seven Tips that was posted on FB?? So my question is...what about when you have a 4 year old who REFUSES to be potty trained and you have been there and done that with all 7 tips? Then what?? Every single suggestion I read on the internet has already been tried. My son is not developmentally delayed...this is the ONE thing he refuses to budge on. He will walk around with crap coming right out of his underwear for an HOUR before asking to be changed. He just doesn't care. He turned 4 in January and now i'm freaking out because if he keeps this up..he won't be able to go to Kindergarden..and then he WILL be behind everyone else! Be patient is all nice and fine..but when you've been trying for almost 2 years..you start wanting throw people out the window who tell you to be patient.

Kenna - posted on 02/15/2011

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Anyone just read the Potty Training 101 Seven Tips that was posted on FB?? So my question is...what about when you have a 4 year old who REFUSES to be potty trained and you have been there and done that with all 7 tips? Then what?? Every single suggestion I read on the internet has already been tried. My son is not developmentally delayed...this is the ONE thing he refuses to budge on. He will walk around with crap coming right out of his underwear for an HOUR before asking to be changed. He just doesn't care. He turned 4 in January and now i'm freaking out because if he keeps this up..he won't be able to go to Kindergarden..and then he WILL be behind everyone else! Be patient is all nice and fine..but when you've been trying for almost 2 years..you start wanting throw people out the window who tell you to be patient.

Nicole - posted on 01/15/2009

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Try Fruit-Loops floating in the potty, "Here honey, aim at that!" Make it a game.
Good luck.

Madelein - posted on 01/15/2009

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HI LINDSEY, I WORKED AT A EDUCARE SCHOOL, WHAT IVE LEARNED OVER THE YEARS, DONT EVER FORCE THE POTTY TRAINING, JUST PRAISE HIM ALOT

AND WHEN EVER U GO TO THE LOO U MUST TELL HIM U BEING A BIG GIRL AND U GONNA GO TO THE TOILET, O AND KIDS (AND GROWN UP) LIKE TO BE REWARDED, SO NOW AND THEN REWARD HIM WITH A ICE CREAM AT MACDONALD S PLAYTIME AND SO FORTH! U WILL C HE WILL JUST GO ONE OF THESE DAYS BY HIMSELF!

Diana - posted on 01/14/2009

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My son was 3 years old too... My sitter helped me with this.. She told him that he was 3 years old and he didn't need to wear diapers anymore. He was a big boy.. Then every 15 minutes she had him go in the bathroom and have him go. He would go. Then she knew when he had to go poop, so she tried to make sure he went around that time. Then for naps she had him go before hand and after. She used pull-ups. After a couple of weeks, of not having any accidents she told me to go and get big boy underwear and then we did that for a couple of weeks. Ever since he has been potty trained and no accidents during the day or night. But, your son needs to be ready and want to do it. If he doesn't don't push him, or he push farther away from you and the situation.

Tanja - posted on 01/14/2009

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the way i got my son to potty train was a good one for a single mom.

i put a happy face in the bowl and asked him to hit the happy face or put two in ,one happy one sad and made a game of it he was peeing in that bowl in no time!

Amy - posted on 01/14/2009

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My 2 1/2 year old is currently potty training. Our next one is due in May and we refuse to buy diapers for 2!! We sat him down and showed him the stack of diapers he had left and explained to him that he could have those diapers and once they were gone we were no longer going to buy them bc he is a big boy now. He disagreed but in just a couple of days told us he didn't want the rest of the diapers bc he's a big boy. Really play up the big boy thing!! I took him to the store with me to buy underwear. I let him pick some fun character ones and I also bought some of the thicker training underwear(the absorb the accidents better!) and some of the plastic pants to go over them so he doesn't make a mess everywhere. He does still have an accident from time to time bc he is too busy to want to stop playing and go. With him we cannot show any dissapoinment bc he gets discouraged and it makes it worse. If he does have an accident we just clean him up and continue on with life and tell him to try and do better next time bc wet pants are yucky! He will not usually say when he has to go so we just take him about every hour. We did rewards the first week until he got the hang of it! I took him with me to purchase a stool for each bathroom so he can step up and wash and get onto the toilet easier...he got big boy soap (kandoo) and wipes(also kandoo). He also has one of the little seats that sits on the toilet bc he is affraid of falling in. We just try and make it as stress free and fun as possible. We do put him in pullups at nap time and at night. Also, if we are going to be in the car for awhile. Good luck to you!!

Amanda - posted on 01/14/2009

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I'm in the same boat...my son knows what to do but refuses to do it. I tried the candy trick to no avail, I tried stickers...didn't work. One day he wanted to use the potty and continued to do so for about a week, now he refuses yet again. I've also tried letting him just wear underwear and not a pull up but I found myself doing more laundry than it did good. His doctor told me just to keep reminding him and he'll eventually get it. I hope that helped a little.

Shawna - posted on 01/14/2009

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   I had this problem at about the saem age. I ptu a portable child potty "chair" in the most common area my sons would be in. Every 30 mins I wouldnt ask him if he had to go, Id place him on the potty seat and tell him to set there for a few- Id stand by and make sure he did.  I'd say 3 out of 5 times he actually went and I rewarded him with something  ie a small handful of M&Ms..Over time he realized he would get treats for going like a big boy. Plus I made them wear the Pull-Ups, that they put on themselves.  When I noticed he go more freguently, I started havign him wear big boy underwear dutrign the day so that if eh did have an accident he'd see hwo uncomfortabel it was. I wouldnt get on to him for but remind him to go in the big boy potty next time.  At nigth they wore the Pull-ups.  And it took probaly 2-4 weeks and they were full trained.

Shawna - posted on 01/14/2009

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   I had this problem at about the saem age. I ptu a portable child potty "chair" in the most common area my sons would be in. Every 30 mins I wouldnt ask him if he had to go, Id place him on the potty seat and tell him to set there for a few- Id stand by and make sure he did.  I'd say 3 out of 5 times he actually went and I rewarded him with something  ie a small handful of M&Ms..Over time he realized he would get treats for going like a big boy. Plus I made them wear the Pull-Ups, that they put on themselves.  When I noticed he go more freguently, I started havign him wear big boy underwear dutrign the day so that if eh did have an accident he'd see hwo uncomfortabel it was. I wouldnt get on to him for but remind him to go in the big boy potty next time.  At nigth they wore the Pull-ups.  And it took probaly 2-4 weeks and they were full trained.

Christina - posted on 01/14/2009

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I didn't do this with my boy but other moms have told me to put a couple of Cherios in the potty and tell them to aim.Good Luck.

Dana - posted on 01/14/2009

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Cloth diapers or cotton underwear with a plastic cover?  Maybe if he actually feels wet and uncomfortable he'll be more inclined to go potty.  Disposable diapers are so absorbant the kids can sit in them a long time before feeling uncomfortable.  Even the pull-ups or disposable training pants are super absorbant, my son just used them like diapers without a second thought.

Danialle - posted on 01/14/2009

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Through cheerios in the toilet and tell him to try to sink them. Call it target practice. If it's like a game, he may want to go in the big boy toilet.

Midge - posted on 01/14/2009

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I put underwears on my grandson also, I thought that would work, it worked for the first day, now he's back to wanting to wear pampers.  Although I say no, he'll keep crying for a pamper because he can't hold it anymore.  I put him on the  potty, but he squeezes his buttcheeks and won't let it go, so I humor him and put on a pamper.  I hope that before he reaches 4, he'll learn to use the potty.  It's nobody's fault, it's just nature taking it's course.

Lucianna - posted on 01/14/2009

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My son is 3 and I've tried mostly everything suggested below: candies, being like daddy, treats, rewards, etc etc.... I think its because I have a 19 month old and a 4 month old - my oldest one thinks he can get more attention this way. He will pee in the toilet, but refuses to drop his loads. Infact, sometimes he will go about 3 days before pooping. AGH! I need to just let him be, right?

Nikki - posted on 01/13/2009

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My son was almos 4 before he was potty trained. some boys take longer. don't fret, he will when he's ready. a great time of year is the spring/summer to pushtraaining when they are in less clothing...hope it helps

Eve - posted on 01/13/2009

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When my son was about 20 months old I simply refused to buy any more pull-ups. I bought him underwear and vinyl training pants to go over them. That way he could feel when he wet himself, and they hate that! But my floors and furniture stayed dry. It only took about a month of that before he was fully trained. You have to be diligent though about taking them to the potty every hour or so, especially after they drink. But once he realizes there's no safety and comfort from those pull-ups anymore he'll want to go to avoid being icky and wet.

Carol - posted on 01/12/2009

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I also did the M&M's, which works once my son was ready. If he is really showing that much resistance to potty training, then take a break from it for a couple of weeks.  I did not even mention it to my son during the "break". It will give you time to relax. Then start again. Boys are a lot different and tend to take a little longer but when he gets it he will be on his way.

Lillian - posted on 01/12/2009

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Try the toilet. My daughter prefered it she felt grown like mummy and daddy!!



 

Midge - posted on 01/12/2009

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It's called "tough love", get rid of the pampers, only use underwears or nothing. He'll get the message. I even got my grandson a potty book, it shows where to do what you need to do, he still holds it in until he can't no more, that could even be just before we go to bed, but he does it in the toilet. It's a screaming thing, people think I'm torturing him, but it has simmer some, he's 3years 5 months.  My grandson would pee in the toilet, but that it. Just we just got to keep on trying. Good luck.

Alana - posted on 01/12/2009

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ps, i left him in nappies on a night though, we are still trying to get him out of that :/

Kerrie-Anne - posted on 01/12/2009

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The number one rule is never rush them or yell at them! The more frustrated you get the more upset they get and the longer it takes. With boys the easiest way to get them to learn not to go in a nappy or pants is to get dad to take them out in the backyard and wee on a tree. Not all parents like to do this but also allow him to watch both you and your partner using the bathroom and he soon catches on that mummy and daddy use the toilet and don't go in their pants, maybe it's not so bad... :) hope to have been of some help, good luck!!

Deanna - posted on 01/11/2009

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My son is almost  8 now and wasn't potty trained until almost 4 yrs. old!  We tried everything.  Rewards, you name it!  When he's ready - it will happen.  One other suggestion is to have him hang around with a boy close to his age that is already potty trained - they always want to do what their friends do!

Jennifer - posted on 01/11/2009

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I pretty much just put him in underwear at about 2 1/2. At 1st I didn't think there was any progression. Coincidentally, after I prayed for a potty training miracle, he came to me an hour later asking to go to the potty.  After a couple of successful weeks, I had him aim at a square of toilet paper (as well as sending him in with daddy) and he's been peeing standing up ever since. In fact, he'll pee standing up, then turn aroun to sit for poop, lol.

Amanda - posted on 01/11/2009

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I had a hard time with my son too. he didnt want to use the potty at all... but at christmas i had bought him some lightening McQueen underwear!! a character that he really liked. i told him that he was a big boy, and big boys dont go pee in there pants... and you dont wanna get McQueen all wet do you? lol. he only had a couple of accidents, and now he is pretty much fully trained.

Amy - posted on 01/11/2009

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My son potty trained at 2. It was pretty frustrating. I started just letting him run around naked and for awhile he would only go this way. Then I started putting him in underwear and let him have accidents. Soon, he got the hang of it. Hang in there every child gets it-sometimes it takes a while! Later on you will look back at this and laugh. You will!! Good luck!!

Mandee - posted on 01/11/2009

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I have three sons, so I have been throught this three times.  Although mine were easily trained shortly after their second birthday, all children are not tnecessarily ready at the same time.  Potty training can be a frustrating experience for both parent and child. Now that he is three, he really should know what is expected of him in terms of staying dry. Discuss this often and try to remain calm and positive during this trying period.  Definately switch to underwear completely. (besides pull-ups at night) It definatley does help so that he has nothing to absorb the elimination and has to feel it.  When an accident does occur(and they will) discuss where the pee goes and the importance of staying dry.  Let him know he has complette control over this and that you know he can do it.  It might also help to let your son watch another male doing it too. A reward system can sometimes work as well.  I did stickers and kept a book right in the bathroom. I also kept books in there, since my boys loved books.  They would sit there just to look at the book.  And of course,  make a big deal about them using the potty and tell him how proud you are of him!

Cat - posted on 01/11/2009

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place a piece of toilet paper in the toilet and tell him it is boat and he has to sink it or try a cheerio and tell him to sink it, it makes a fun game for him and he learns to use the potty too. I tried the cheerio with my son, but he only wanted to try fishing it out to eat it, and I was told about the toilet paper by a friend and that worked, my son is now 19yrs old so if he knew I told that story he'd be embarassed....lol. 

Rebecca - posted on 01/11/2009

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Each child is definately different when it comes to potty training as I learned the hard way with my 3 kids. With my youngest who is 3 I keep trying different things until I find one that seems to interest him. I found with my son it hasn't been a matter of knowing the difference it's him asserting his independance.  We tried the naked thing which seemed to be working for a week then he decided to sneak off and pee in his room if I took my eyes off him for a minute. We tried the prize thing but he got bored with that too (this system worked awesome though for my middle child!) 



Currently we are on day 3 of wearing underwear except for nap and bed times or leaving the house and he is doing well. I found that he is more excited to stand up and pee on the regular potty like his big brother and dad as opposed to using the potty chair.



I usually take a week or two break in between trying the different methods so as not to stress him or me out.  It has been an uphill struggle though my older kids were both trained at 2 years old I just have to keep reminding myself every kid is different. We have been getting the whole family involved in praising him for using the potty.  After a day of doing really well his aunnie or grandma will call and tell him what a big boy he is and how proud they are of him. Good luck to you I am hoping my current method holds out, all the suggestions I have read can work it's just a matter of finding the one that interests your child most.

Dina - posted on 01/11/2009

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I let my boys walk around naked from the waist down and kept a potty seat in whatever room we were in. I think I had one accident but the minute they realized what was happening they ran to the potty. I also let them pick out the seat at the store. Good luck!

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During the summer - let him go outside in your yard, (behind a tree) and 'aim' at a rock or something. During the winter - put cheerios in the big boy toliet and let him aim - it will be like a game. With my daughter - we did a sticker chart (she colored it all over)- we made a chart with 5 boxes in a row and once there were 5 stickers, we would go to the dollar store and get her a special prize!! It worked great! We just kept it right on the fridge - she got to pick each sticker to put on it, helped with her decision making (independence) also.

Pam - posted on 01/11/2009

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I am also trying to train my 3 year old boy with lots of difficulties. He is very active and we have trouble getting to stop what he is doing to use to potty. He also does not really care if his underwear and pants are wet. It is very frustrating

Amanda - posted on 01/11/2009

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I am in the same boat- what seems to be helping is getting him around other children his age and letting him see they go on the potty, not asking him but taking him to the potty to try- not forcefully but asking seems to the wrong way, and bringing him to the potty every time I go- the interest is starting but really until they want to...

May - posted on 01/11/2009

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I tried the candy thing, it didn't work.



 



What I ended up doing was buying a bunch of fun, but cheap, toys and sticking them in a gift bag. Every time he went potty I made a huge deal out of it: made him close his eyes and reach into the bag and pull out a huge surprise. After about 10 times of that, he just got it. I also always kept underwear on him - there's nothing more uncomfortable than an accident!

Molly - posted on 01/11/2009

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my first one was tough, he was just a bit over 3 when he potty trained, my second was trained at 16 months it varies child to child. With my first son I had tried pullups didn't work. It took watching a potty video telling him we were going to start training on a certain date. marked it on the calender, went the day before and let him pick out big boy undies. Put m and m's in a jar in the batroom. And just started. Next day he went into underwear he got an m&m for using the potty. Whe he had na accident I didn't scold at all just helped him cleanup and reminded him. He was trained in2 weeks. and the m&m's hit the road!

Lisa - posted on 01/11/2009

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I know its not a great snack to give them, but I put a bowl of M & M's on the bathroom counter top and everytime he went on the potty he got a few.



 



Good luck

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My boy will be 3 in april and if I let him run around the house naked he's pretty good about using the potty, if he's wearing pull-ups there's no hope. So i'm gonna let him get used to the whole using the potty things while he runs around naked and then we'll introduce underwear and hope he continues or at least transitions after a few accidents, and when he's used to that we'll add the pants

Ashley - posted on 01/11/2009

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heyy. Well my son is 2 years and I never thought he would get potty trianed. But I let him go because pushing them isnt going to work. It just pushes them more away.  Every now and then ask if he wants to sit on the pottyor if your in the bathroom have his potty there, and have him sit on it while you are... But if he doesnt dont force him. I did that one morning and ever since that he has gone!

Mary - posted on 01/11/2009

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You could try a reward system.I have done jelly beans and even M&M's for each time they go potty.I have always tried to make it fun and positive.After 7 years of diapers I have potty trained 2 boys and a girl.I know how frustrated it can be just try and remember he will not wear diapers forever and each child is different,sometimes it takes one alittle longer.:) Good Luck!

Lisa - posted on 01/11/2009

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Honestly....I bought my son underwear and told him that he was big like daddy and that daddy did not go in his pants. He only had a few accidents after that. Good luck!!!

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