potty training girl...suggestions?

Cindy - posted on 09/07/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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potty training 20mth old that is going and asking to so some of the time. any suggestions on a smooth training

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Frances - posted on 09/07/2009

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First off im a mom of 5, and have potty trained 3 resently and about to start with my 23 month old. first off it has nothing to do with them wanting to or not....potty training, no matter what anyone says is about you...your willingness to start a roughtine and STICK to it..i mean it, i will tell you what you need to do, but if you get lazy..it wont work., but if you stick with it your 20 month old will be potty trained in no time. first off, you have to take him/her to the potty with you every time you go.(thats possible) and start bringing him/her in to sit on the potty every 1-1.5 hours...that is the most crucial step...even if they dont go! which they probably wont at first. most likely they will rather go in their pants in between sittings, however DONT yell at him/her or punish him/her, (thats where pull ups are helpfull) just take him/her into the bathroom and get them to sit on the toilet, and clean themselves (with your help) and be sure to praise the living crap out of them when they do use the bathroom in the toilet!.....trust me it will work...work so good in fact that you will wish that they were still in diapers....because remember once youve got them to understand how to do it correctly, they will hold it till its excutiating, like when your out and about and cant get to a potty right away....you might want to say...oh its ok to pee in your pull up just this once.....DONT.....it will start a trend....just rememeber there's no "right" time to start your toddler potty training, so as soon as your willing to go the distance.....have fun!

Lisa - posted on 09/07/2009

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I am a mother of 8, 7 girls, and have potty trained 5 of my kids. 1st, don't start until SHE is ready. If you wait (and they are usually about 2 1/2 - 3 when they are REALLY ready) it will go smoother. When she starts asking to go potty, try this: 1 Make a 2 week chart, list the days of the week. 2 When she goes in the potty, have HER put a sticker on her chart. If she has an accident YOU draw a sad face on her chart. This does 2 things, rewards her immediately for a job well done, and encourages her when she can see that she had say, 3 sad faces yesterday but only 1 today. With my oldest 5, once they went 3 days w/no sad faces they got to wear big girl panties. Once they go 2 weeks w/no sad faces we had a Potty Party (usually at Chuck E Cheese) to celebrate with them. With all of mine, by day 3 they had no accidents, my last one trained in 1 day and never had an accident after that.



This has worked well for me and many of my friends. Like I said, wait until she's ready or all you will do is train yourself to rush her to the potty 100 times a day and sometimes she may go sometimes she won't. It works best after age 2 1/2 because they have a better concept of 'time' and are more verbal and understand that in 3 days they get this, in 2 weeks they get that. I would honestly recommend waiting with her. She's a little young, although admittedly 3 of my oldest 5 trained shortly after their 2nd birthday, but they were MORE than ready and were consistently asking about it and woke up dry. Hope this helps! God bless!

Michelle - posted on 09/07/2009

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Well my daughter is only 8 months... so this is not something we're doing right now! But I can tell you what we do in the daycare centre that I work at. We have a schedule that we follow everyday and that includes several bathroom times. But when we are training a child we take them at least every 30 minutes. If they go on the toilet they get a sticker. Plus we have also had parents that have been using their own reward system and have followed that as well (I.E. small toys from the dollar store). Make a big deal when she does use the potty too! We clap and make fools out of ourselves, but the children LOVE it!! Good luck:o)

Tina - posted on 09/07/2009

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When your at home set a kitchen timer to remind you to take her potty regularly through out the day. Reward her with books, stickers, etc. Most important, be patient. Overnight success is rarely acheived. The average age when a child is completely potty trained is 30 to 36 months.

Teasha - posted on 09/07/2009

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what worked for me was first lettin her know what she did in her diaper so she could understand what to do in the potty. after that when she first would go on the potty i would make it really big deal praise her for doing such a big girl thing and when she was done i wouold give her a sticker after that she would love going to the bathroom...

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Sejal - posted on 06/13/2011

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my daughter is 23mths old .have been trying since 2 mths to train her but no sucess till date . she is scared of sitting on the pot inspite of me standing there n holding her. no matter how much i make her sit she would control n do it after coming out only be it 5 or 10 minns . tried books , stories n music nothing helps. she knows n immediately comes to tell me after the job is done but not before . still put her in diaper when sleeping or going out. . dont know what to do . need advice?

Loretta - posted on 09/07/2009

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bribe her. My husband told my daughter that if she had potty trained herself by the time he got back in off the road which was a month. That he would go with her to Wal-mart and she could have whatever panties that she wanted. She was potty trained when he got back. And if that don't work....give her time!

Ida - posted on 09/07/2009

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I agree with Lisa, I had 5 children, each one is different, the first 3 I got all uptight about their training but by the time # 4 came along I tried a new technique. I just let him wait until he was ready. It was great. He just did it when he saw all the other kids doing it and finally figured out that it was cool when we started clapping and making a big deal out of it. I did the same with #5 and it went great. I loved it, No fighting, no yelling, no bribing, nothing. They are both in their twenties now and niether wear diapers :0).

Terrie - posted on 09/07/2009

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my daughter wudn`t go on the potty just the toilet and she woke up one mornin and said she didn`t want her nappy on she wanted to be a big girl they will do it when their ready i say i rewarded brooke with a sticker which she stuck in her sticker book if she went to the toilet if she got 20 at the end of the week i`d buy her something new

Lisa - posted on 09/07/2009

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Not to force it. The less stressed you are about the better outcome. Potty training is one of the first times developmentally that they learn the concept of control. If it becomes a struggle between you two it only teaches her how to control in a negative way & teaches power struggle. Enjoy the growth & process, because developmentally it is crucial they get through this stage successfully. Structure is good, but uncondional approach is best. Right now she is exploring the concept. Follow her ques and it will be successful. 20 months is still young, but sounds like she is beginning to develop a conceptual idea of potting in the toilet.

Your desire to have be a smooth process is starting you on the right path. Good luck.

Lisa

Cindy - posted on 09/07/2009

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just went thru that with a boy that will be 3 in Nov. we used pull-ups but they just made it seem longer. we bought a potty that plays music when he goes and that helped him alot and the fact that he didnt like the poo on him when he saw it there. she has big girl panties but she tells me after the fact.

Shayna - posted on 09/07/2009

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We have always gone straight to underware. No pull ups, because to me they seem to be to much like diapers. My kids would just pee in them. Maybe some type of reward system. We did stickers. I made a little sticker reward poster and hung it in the bathroom and when they went they got to stick a sticker on it. Mostly your daughter just has to be ready. Good Luck.

Tabatha - posted on 09/07/2009

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try asking her if she wants pretty big girl underwear..most of the time that will work. I'm having a hard time trying to potty train a boy who is almost 3.

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