Potty training....need HELP!!!

Abby - posted on 07/29/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My son has been out of diapers since he turned 3 on April 10th (almost 4 months now). He had been using the toilet at least once a day since he turned 2 so I thought it was time, especially since his school this year will require potty training (unlike last year). Yet, he still doesn't ask to go potty and he'll have accidents if I don't steadily remind him. He hardly ever poops in the toilet (for me, the stay-at-home-mom...he's better for grandma & grandpa and his dad) but doesn't seem to have any fear of the toilet and he eats lots of fibrous foods so constipation/pain is not an issue. We have tried incentives like candy, a prize chart that earns him small toys, and large toys when he poops (we've offered just about anything from Chuck E. Cheese's to an ice cream run if/when he poops). He is resistant, although he is very in control of his body...anytime we get him on the toilet he'll squeeze some (pee) out. School starts in a little over a month and I feel the pressure. Any advice will help. What can I do next? Thank you!!

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Jaime - posted on 08/02/2012

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Glad to hear about the progress...even if it's just sporadic at this point. Keep doing what you're doing and don't be afraid to scream into a pillow lol! Good luck :)

Abby - posted on 08/02/2012

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Thank you so much, Jaime, for taking the time to respond! Unfortunately, my boy is quite a fighter but today we actually had a successful poop! He was screaming and crying even once he got on the toilet... it took a firm voice and even a loud clap of my hands to get him to snap out of it and just relax. We'll see how tomorrow goes. Thank you, thank you!

Jaime - posted on 07/29/2012

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Instead of asking him if he has to pee, try going to him, take him by the hand and say "okay it's time to have a pee on the potty" and be consistent in this method. By now you'll probably have an idea of how long between bathroom visits, but maybe once every hour, put him on the toilet for five minutes. Also get some potty books to read to him while he sits there...that helped with my son. He's being resistent because it's something that he knows he can control. He will get there eventually but this part is always really frustrating because apart from what you've already done there really isn't much else you can try. So instead of asking "do you have to go pee/poop?" just start saying "okay, time for a potty break" or something like that. I hope this helps :)

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