Pottyrated!!

Ty - posted on 02/13/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am at my wits end. Hopefully I can get some insight here, please help.

My DD is three, she has been potty trained since she was 15 months old. Within the last year or so she has seriously regressed. She will go hide, and poop her panties.

She did deal with constipation, I took her to the doctor, she got medicine for it, she is no longer scared of it hurting, it is no longer hard. She got better for a while, and then she started pooping in her pants, again.

Just today, she started, I could smell it, I asked her, she lied and said she was 'hiding'. Then when I told her I needed to check, she immediately stood up and said 'I need to poop'. When you talk to her about it, she knows it is wrong, when I ask her why, she said 'because, I did'.

We have tried, what seems like everything, we have taken away toys, and movies, no sleep overs, taken away gymnastics, etc. STILL NO RESULTS.

We have tried the calendar method, and the treats.

I REFUSE to put pampers, or pull ups on her, I do not want to work backwards- forward tips and solutions only, please. I know she can do it, she did before, I do not believe she 'isn't ready'-she is THREE.

She is supposed to start a preschool program, but she will not be able to go if she cannot get this under control again.

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Sarah - posted on 02/13/2015

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Thanks, I have seen it used so often to refer to disabled.

There must be a reason she refuses the toilet, as humans we inherently desire to be clean and free of discomfort. What does she gain by pooping in her pants? Your attention, but anything else? If it is fear or pain based, then I stand by her going back to a strict laxative regimen. So her stool is so soft (like frozen yogurt) that she can't hold it. That would require pull-ups or diapers for a time. then start the retraining process.
Toddlers can't control a whole lot, but they can control using the toilet and eating. The goal you need to achieve is to figure out what is motivating her to go in her pants? Attention, pain, fear, are three I can think of, maybe other moms can help?

Ty - posted on 02/13/2015

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She is still on her softeners.

The doctor agrees/confirmed with me she is deliberately choosing to do this. If she behaved differently while she was doing it, it would be different.

DD- Dear Daughter.

Sarah - posted on 02/13/2015

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You cannot punish a child this age for a toileting issue. She is not deliberately choosing to poop in her pants for no reason. Whether rational or not she has a reason for not using the toilet. I'd go back to the doctor, restart the laxatives and retrain her bowels. You can have her sit on the potty after every meal for 20-30 minutes, (you'll have to sit with her and read or talk) after eating is when her peristalsis is greater and she may need to go poop. It takes ONE painful defecation incident for a child to start a pattern of holding and constipation.

Help me out, what does DD stand for?

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