Pre-teen dieting?

Cassandra - posted on 07/03/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My daughter is of the age where appearance is everything to her and her friends. She's always been a little curvier than her peers, but she has gained a little more weight over the last year and is noticeably larger than many of her friends.

I try to get her to do physical activity, but she's not consistent. Should I put her on a diet?

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Denikka - posted on 07/03/2013

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Never, never, never put a child on a diet without a doctors explicit orders.
A child doesn't need to be put on a diet. What MAY be needed is a lifestyle change. Like Little Miss said, bring in less junk food, teach her HEALTHY eating habits (proper portion sizes, healthy foods, etc) and encourage an active lifestyle. That means that you and the whole family can get involved too. This shouldn't be about changing HER eating/activity habits. This should be a family change. Go for walks after dinner, get her involved in cooking, see what she may enjoy being involved in. There is a HUGE variety of activities that encourage healthy moving. Everything from sports to dance. She doesn't have to be on a team, she may prefer an individual activity, and that's fine. There are plenty of those around too. Swimming is fun (look into a team, you may be able to *train* with a club without actually having to compete if she's not into that) Archery is fantastic (and good for a core and upper body (arm and shoulder) muscles. Belly dancing is SO much fun! Even something like yoga can be a great mom/daughter bonding activity)
I think with the activity, it would really help if you got involved with her on some level. Belly dancing or yoga can be a fun thing that you can even do at home (you can hire an instructor to come to you) and is great for bonding. It's a fun, silly thing to do together :)
And that's the most important thing. Don't make activity a chore. Find something she really enjoys to do :)

Ev - posted on 07/03/2013

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Also the only time you put a child on a diet is per doctor's orders. There is also a big deal about how appearance is like you said. Media has kept this up for decades on what is the right looks or weight or height. What is important is to teach her that it is what is inside that counts the most and to boost that confidence in her. You can easily work into the changes in the family meals and snacks and with exercise making it a positive experience instead of a negative one. Keep her away from those media outlets as much as possible over looks or discuss how unhealthy it is mentally and physically to a person if they try to be like those models or celebs that the whole rest of the world tries to be like. She should know that she is still growing and in a couple of years she might get taller and she may not be curvey than her peers.

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Kristi - posted on 07/03/2013

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I absolutely agree with the other moms. Over the course of 6th and 7th grade, I've seen major body changes in several of my daughter's friends. 3 in particular stand out the most. 2 were totally short and completely undeveloped for most of the 2 years. They were about a head and a half shorter than my daughter. Now, they are almost as tall as her and have a few curves right where they belong. The third was a shortish, chubby girl. Still had baby fat on her face. She is now one of the most beautiful (outward and inward) girls in their class. She grew a few inches, slimmed down, you can see all her facial features/structure now. My point is, in addition to the great advice the other moms gave you, nature will take it's course also. Kids bodies change soooo much at this age.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/03/2013

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Chances are she is ready to get her period, or has already started it and that can certainly make for weight gain.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/03/2013

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I guess it depends on your definition of diet. Bringing in less junk food into the house, and offering healthy snacks and meals should do the trick along with physical activity. Maybe enroll her into her favorite sport or dance class. I would personally not use the word diet to a pre-teen though.

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