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Hello my nameis Victoria but everyone calls me vicki i am 14 geting ready to turn fifteen. I havent had a period for five months and i took my first pregnancy test a three months and they all came up neg and i just now im pregnant i have every symptom and now i feel movement and i started getting the fake labor pains and im starting too worry.... please help

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Cinderella - posted on 01/28/2014

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Sweetie, you should prob sit down with the parent that is closest to you first, and tell them you have something important to talk about. Tell them you need all their support, and that you think you might be pregnant. Talk about your concerns, fears, thoughts, your parents are their to support you. If you don't feel comfortable talking to your parents, then maybe talk to an Aunt or close relative.

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Talia Is A - posted on 07/16/2015

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Hi Vicki! Periods can be complicated, and just because you missed a few doesn't mean you definitely are pregnant. Some people don't get morning sickness so maybe it's just a flu. The fake labor pains could just be cramps. If you really are sure take another test. If it's showing and it's not fat then you're probably pregnant. Go to the doctor and ask for an ultrasound. If you really are pregnant then try to find how far in you are. There are ways of giving birth that are painless, or you could get an abortion. Tell your parents if you think you are.

Taylor - posted on 01/31/2014

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Vicki,

I'm currently 18 and I had twin boys a year ago when I was 17. My mother found out through someone else and it was extremely scary but once it over with... a huge weight will be lifted off of you and you can start focusing on your baby.
If you honestly feel like you can't tell her by yourself, there are consolers at your school who I'm sure would gladly help you, though, bringing other people into this might not be the best.

Either way, you need to tell her.
Your baby needs prenatal care.

It also depends on where you go to get the blood test, some clinics can do it for free.

Wishing you the best,
Taylor

Natasha - posted on 01/31/2014

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My sister also got pregnant at 14. she was scarred also! She told me since I was her older sister and then I sat down with her when she told our parents! Yes they was mad, but mainly shocked! They was very supportive and help her every way they could! My nephew is now 4 and doing great! My sister stepped up and took 100% care of him! Good Luck telling your mom, I'm sure she will be supportive too!

Mahi - posted on 01/31/2014

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Be strong vicki , and tell to ur mom. may be she gets upset for sometimes but MOM is the best guide and best support for their kids. .

Kimberly - posted on 01/31/2014

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I just told her when she was watching tv I went to sit Down with her and I told her mom I need to to talk to you and I blured out I'm pregnant and then she was a little mad but eventually she gave in and said that I should have the baby and then through the whole pregnancy she was happy and supportive and a great grandmother to my son . Trust me I know you're scared to tell yur parents but at the end they are the only real people that can help you

Kimberly - posted on 01/30/2014

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Hi Vicki Im currently 19 years old and I have a 4 in a half year old son I too was pregnant at 14 and I was scared to death to tell my mom but it's the best decision u can make is to tell a trustworthy adult wether it's your mom dad aunt you NEED to let some one know don't worry you are not alone many young girls are getting pregnant at this time and it's ok to be scared I been there and it's better to let an adult know than to be on your own .

Cinderella - posted on 01/30/2014

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Emily, you need to go to a community that has to do with your problem, and them click the pink button "start a conversation"

Cinderella - posted on 01/28/2014

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I'm not sure, it could be free but it depends on your insurance coverage. You could call the doctor and tell them you're situation And ask how much it costs. Your parents have your insurance info, so I would ask them for the card.

Cinderella - posted on 01/28/2014

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You just need an insurance card, you have insurance? You will prob have to pay a co-pay in cash upfront (it's like a deposit when see the doctor). Try and go to a doctor office, and discuss your options with the doctor.

Call the insurance company, and ask them to send you the details of the maternity coverage for your plan, number is on back of card, call customer service.

If you don't have maternity coverage, your parents can advise you on how to get that.

If you're pregnant, you will feel all sorts of weird things you've never felt, twitches, twinges, little sharp shooting pains - like cramps. If you have any bad bad pains, get to the doctor asap. If you start bleeding, go to the emergency room. You need to be on a healthy diet, don't smoke, don't drink alcohol. You will need to drink AT LEAST 8 glasses of water a day, and 4 glasses of milk, just carry around a water bottle, and fill it up often. Do not eat junk food, it will make you throw up, :O) I learned the hard way.
Whatever you put in your body, your baby gets too.

Cinderella - posted on 01/28/2014

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Good. Ok good luck, and if you're not pregnant, please use protection, it's worth the wait. Be a kid right now! You'll thank me later.

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He knows i might i told him as soon as i found out that i might. And hes being very suportive we've both already been doing our reaserch and i babysit my nephew's and there all between the ages of 9months and five years and ive been babysitting them sense they were new borns. And thank you so much for all ur help and advise i appreciate it so much.

Cinderella - posted on 01/28/2014

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Also, start taking a prenatal vitamin a good one that I took over the counter is nature made prenatal vitamin, with DHA. Get a pregnancy book And start reading. It is just as important for your boyfriend to get a daddy book so he can understand what you're going through and know how to be there for you. Let me know whst happens!

If you are then, Congratulations Mommy, this is the best gift you will ever receive.

Cinderella - posted on 01/28/2014

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Ok I have a different solution then. You need to find out if you're pregnant, go see your doctor, go with a friend or some one u trust.
It seems like you know a lot about pregnancy. Good to know you're doing your research.
The doctor will do a blood test and tell u for sure.
If you are, the first person u tell is your boyfriend IN PERSON. Then you both decide what you're going to do, if you keep the baby, you should prob talk about getting married. Decide what you both want out of your relationship. Having a baby especially at your age will put an enormous amount if strain and stress on your life and your relationship, it's gonna be hard, but you can get through this.
Once you have talked it over, go together to each set of parents and break the news as a couple, if you want to get married tell them that too. But get all of the info together so they know you've done your research and are prepared for the decision you have made.

Cinderella - posted on 01/28/2014

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Wow Judy, slow down. Think about when you were 14 years old, did you really think much? COME ON! This IS a very adult situation, and being 30 years old, I just had my baby 5 months ago, and let me tell you, I could not have done this at age 14!

Victoria, are you dating the guy who may have gotten u pregnant?

Jodi - posted on 01/28/2014

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Here's the thing. You clearly felt old enough and responsible enough to have sex. So that means you are old enough and responsible enough to face whatever consequences come with that, and that includes having an adult discussion with your parents about your concerns. You need to let them know you need to talk to them about something, let them know you have been having sex, let them know you haven't had a period in five months, let them know you have done a pregnancy test and it is negative, and let them know you are scared and need their help.

Cinderella - posted on 01/28/2014

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You need to talk to your parents, and have them take you to the doctor. Go do that first, then come back.

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