Pregnancy and arbotion

Missy - posted on 06/29/2013 ( 13 moms have responded )

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How can woman justify arbotions jus bcoz they had a bad pregnancy??

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Jodi - posted on 07/02/2013

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Well, if you weren't judging, why the "jus bcoz"? In itself, that was judgmental. You are CLEARLY judging people for having an abortion due to bad pregnancies.

Like you "sed"? You "sed" nothing about anything except a purely judgmental statement. I am very sorry you lost a child. I could never comprehend what you have been through. I would never try to even guess how you feel or judge what choices you made.

I also could never comprehend what a woman who had to make the choice to have an abortion went through to make her choice and I fail to see what your situation has to do with another person's decision.

Can I suggest that if you want to have a debate about an issue, you at least be able to put forward your point of view in an intelligent and coherent manner? Because so far, you haven't really succeeded at whatever point it is you were attempting to make...other than the fact that you were judging others for their choice to abort due to a bad pregnancy.

Denikka - posted on 07/02/2013

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You cannot judge, and probably shouldn't even comment, on another woman's decision on why she chose abortion. As was mentioned before, no birth control is 100% effective. Things happen even with the most careful precautions. Is she just supposed to not have sex again until she's well past menopause?
You don't know what any woman has gone through. Her previously pregnancy may have almost killed her. If she has other children, who is she supposed to choose? Her existing children and her LIFE, or the possibility of a child that she quite likely won't even be around to enjoy?

I can tell you that if it came down to it, and I have discussed this with my hubby and we are agreed that this is our choice should I be unable to decide on medical procedures for myself, but if it comes down to it, and it's a choice between my fetus and myself, I will choose my own life. I have 2 (almost 3) children already in this world who need their mother.

Abortion is a personal decision done for personal reasons. What may be unbearable for one person (pregnancy, childbirth, disabled child, etc) to deal with, that would cause them to even consider aborting the next time, may be something that another person would just accept and take in stride. It's not for anyone else to judge or even comment on.
And Jodi is right. If you want to have an intelligent discussion, it's best to at least use basic proper spelling, punctuation and grammar. Other wise you come across as extremely ignorant, uneducated, and judgmental.

Kristi - posted on 06/29/2013

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How can you expect to have a serious conversation about a sensitive subject when you can't spell or use full words or a complete sentence?

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Alicia - posted on 07/04/2013

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Not all women can justify their abortion. Many look back with nothing but guilt and regret at a moment in their life when they were scared and alone and felt they had no choice. These women deserve your help and pity, not your scorn. Thank you.

A - posted on 07/02/2013

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It isn't a choice I would make for myself- but I understand that it is a woman's choice not mine. And I am not to judge. But to the op, reading your post did sound judgemental

Melissa - posted on 07/02/2013

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Hey how about this one ladies, no one can judge anyone but god himself, lets just leave it at that, because no one gets anywhere by doing so, so ladies lets all be grown ups about this, this is a sore subject for people orf all races and religions, so how about everyone just be nice and be real, I can't believe that people can be so cold hearted and unkind towards each other, it be better if one another could just give advice without harsh evil comments, where all adults lets act like one, thank you.

Kristi - posted on 07/02/2013

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Jodi--

I tried to rate "helpful" a bunch of times...so it would give the message that your comment is very, very, very, very, very helpful but it just went back and forth between 0 and 1. So, I had to settle for helpful and encouraging instead.

Missy - posted on 07/02/2013

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Not my place to judge like I sed I had a baby Wid a serious heart defect last yr.. Sadly he past away march jus gon, it's only been 3 months n I'm pregnant again bt bcoz of everything dat happened in my last pregnany didn't make me consider arbotion..

Missy - posted on 07/02/2013

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Sorry I didnt mean to judge or affend any1, it's jus dat every1 entitled to dare views dats y u post ur stories or comments on here..

Michelle - posted on 06/29/2013

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It's a woman's choice. If she had a really bad pregnancy then I agree that she should be using birth control but it's not 100%. Sometimes it may be the only option.
It's not your place to judge someone else.

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