Pregnancy at 39!?!

Charlotte - posted on 02/25/2010 ( 27 moms have responded )

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I am currently a working 39 years young (hahaha) mom and my only son just turned 5 yrs old. We are trying to get pregnant. I am not sure what my question is, just would like to hear from anyone that has or is in this boat!

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Christina L - posted on 10/15/2012

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I am also currently 39, just got re-married this past Saturday and we have been discussing pregnancy. Between us we already have 6 kids. But my three boys live with their father in Oklahoma. But we have his two boys living with us and we get his daughter on the weekends. So between us we have a 17, a 16, a 15, a 14, a 13 and a 9 year old. But I have always felt like I wasnt done having children. But of course I have 3 boys and have always wanted to have a girl. And even though I understand that just by getting pregnant doesn't mean I will get that girl, I still keep thinking about having a baby. I get so exctied but then I start getting scared that I will be over whelmed when it comes to starting all over again. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Lisa - posted on 02/25/2010

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Hi Charlotte, Congratulations! I got pregnant for the first time at 39. Rachel was conceived within 10 days of effort. LOL I had a very healthy pregnancy and delivery. My OB told me not to worry or rush if we wanted more children because I was healthy and THAT is the most critical factor. Yesterday was Rachel's first birthday.... so far she is off the charts in her development. Take care of yourself and repeat this stat when people try to unnerve you.....97% of babies born to women over 35 are perfectly healthy....those odds are pretty close to your odds of not getting pregnant when using the pill correctly! Best wishes!!!!

Deb - posted on 02/25/2010

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I got pregnant at 39 (two months before my 40th) and our only other child was a 6 yr old girl. Our baby is 3.5 now. The older sister was wonderful and continues to be. The two kids are night and day....there is absolutely nothing that was the same from my experience being pregnant, through the newborn stages, on up through toddlerhood. They are completely individual. I wondered if I would "love" the second child as much as the first---everything being "first" and all or if you would have that same kind of instinct. It's there. I wouldn't dream of going back to one. Let me know if you have any questions about health, attitudes, etc....I can give you what I got?!

Sheilagh - posted on 02/25/2010

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I have just had my son (he is 2 1/2 mnths old) and I am 40. 39 when I fell pregnant. He is an absolute joy and I am soooo in love with him. I also have a 15 year old daughter who is an absolute star and helps so much. I am truly blessed - go for it - babies are the best - I wish i was younger i might consider having a third!

Chrissy - posted on 02/25/2010

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Hi there! I was 38 when I got pregnant with my daughter (first baby)- 39 right after she was born in May 2009 and we are already trying for baby #2. They do stress you out with info as to higher risks for older women and some of the terms are ridiculous (Advanced maternal age and geriatric pregnancy- ack!!) but if you are healthy then chances are good that your pregnancy will be healthy too. I did choose to do the amnio (my sister is a labor/delivery nurse and the risks are actually extremely low compared to the peace of mind and info you get from it). The amnio was a piece of cake- for me it didn't hurt- pinched like a regular shot but that was it. It's been a challenge like any baby and the first year I think is the hardest. I think physically it might have been easier in my 20's but she's an absolute precious treasure and soo much fun. I am little intimidated to have my second at 40-41 yrs old but excited and hopeful as well. My friend had two children very young then just had her last two at 39 and 41 and all are healthy and happy! Good Luck!

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Debbie - posted on 02/25/2010

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I am a mother of five boys my youngest is 4 I had him at 39. It is true you are considered high risk and they do run more test. It has become more common for women to have children well up in there forty's. Stay healthy is the key. I did have complications he decided to stop growing and was delivered at 4lbs.(c-section) We all called him peanut now we call him the monster! Yes, he is my last one and he brings joy to our family everyday. The only scary thing is when he graduates is when I will get my (senior) gold card and be a member of AARP!

Lynn Stern - posted on 02/25/2010

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I was 39 when I had my 4th child. I do not work full time. I work at home with 2 businesses. First, try to relax and not get yourself so worked up about it. Second, you are busy with one child and a full time job, make sure you are taking vitamins, drinking plenty of water. Chiropractic care can help too. Making sure your alignment is correct could help the inside do what they are supposed to do.
Best wishes.

Colleen - posted on 02/25/2010

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My husband and I have 3 children. 17, 14 and now a 4 month old. This pregnancy for me (I was 38) was VERY hard. I was extremely tired and VERY uncomfortable and had morning sickness for the entire 9 months. With our other 2 they were a piece of cake. With this baby, The delivery however was MUCH easier and quicker and believe it or not the recovery was WONDERFUL. All in all, I dont regret a day of the nine months.

Tricia - posted on 02/25/2010

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I wish you all the luck.... I have a 7 year old son and am now 9 weeks pregnant at 36yrs of age. comes with more Dr.'s visits but a joy non-the-same. Just dont stress about getting pregnant, relax and have fun with it and I'm sure it will work out.

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A customer of mine said his wife had their last baby @ 44 & it helped her to stay fit & exercise. He said water aerobics helped her & I think chiropractor? I'd recommend starting to get fit now so your body is used to it during your pregnancy, take prenatals now and eat right! :) If it was meant to happen it will & good luck!

Krystal - posted on 02/25/2010

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Just thought i'd say my mum had me @ 20, Nathan @ 22, Tori @ 36 & Ella @ 38. Good on you!!!

Kelley - posted on 02/25/2010

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My Dh and I are both 39 and we planned our second baby too. Our son is nearly three and our second son is due in June. Best of luck, I think that we older moms are a little more patient and fun! :)

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sorry - i dont work full time now - i am staying home but worked all through pregnancy was what i meant. sorry

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I have 2 boys aged 11 and 6 and am 38 and just had a little girl. I also work full time as a teacher - i did find this time i was more tired being pregnant and quite sick (not sure if that was just a girl thing as i wasnt with the boys). But now she is here I am finding it quite cruisy. Kids are really helpful - love her to bits and I am feeling really relaxed - good luck!

Rachel - posted on 02/25/2010

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Hello Charlotte. I am 39 years young(LOL) and will be 40 in July. I just had my first son on Jan. 15th. The labor was rough but he was well worth it. I am a stay at home mom and I don't know how mothers go to work and take care of a newborn. The sleeping pattern is up and down how could you go to work and manage? I guess if I had to I would manage. I hope to be able to stay at home and take care of our son. I have always worked until Aug of 08 and we planned on starting a family and hear we are. Enjoying every minute of our newborn. Don't know if this will help you but thought I would reply.

Rach

Andrea - posted on 02/25/2010

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My Mom ha 4 of us the last one at 40 i was there her hole pregnancy no complications very easy pregnancy thank goodness but she did eat right and constantly made sure to rest and not stress out .... All the best luck to you

Toni - posted on 02/25/2010

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I was 38 when I had my last baby, he is now three. I have three girls from ages 22, 17, 7. All my pregrancies went smoothly. I did have a miscarriage right before we got pregrant with him, but did not take no time and we got pregnant again. I had to have a c-section because he was transverse and he came 2 weeks early, weighing 9lbs 7oz. He is a great joy to our family and spoiled by his many sisters, which he also has two step sisters that are 15 and 18. Good luck with you and best wishes.

Betty - posted on 02/25/2010

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I had my youngest son when I was 41. He will be 10 in May. My oldest will be 33 in May. I say, go for it, if this is what you want. I love it!!

Jodi - posted on 02/25/2010

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Charlotte, I am 40, and although I am not trying to get pregnant, I just wanted to let you know that I have noticed many symptoms of menopause recently. Once thing I have checked out is that menopause tends to follow the pattern of your own mother. My mother started menopause when she was only 42, so the chances are, I will be early too. So, find out when your mother started menopause, and as someone else mentioned, get your hormones checked. I also heard recently that you can go and get a test done to find out approximately how many eggs you have left!!

Janet - posted on 02/25/2010

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I have a 17 year old daughter who is graduating high school in may, and a 14 year old son. i am 42 and just had a baby boy 3 & 1/2 months ago. Its starting all over but well worth it! Good luck

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I'm only 34, but I work as a nurse. I see moms come in who are 39 and above all the time. I have found great luck using the website www.askdramy.com & I have used it to print out my most fertile days (and I would tape it to our fridge for my husband!)...and sha-bam we are on baby #3. I also liked another website called www.fertilityfriend.com.



I also had great luck using the LH ovulation tests. I got 100 of them on amazon to help me pinpoint ovulation. If your LH test strip is positive you will ovulate some where in between 24 & 48 hours, they are best used twice a day because the LH surge may only last 6 hours. The LH tests I got from amazon.com are the standard lab tests we used back when I worked in a lab, and much much cheaper than store bought brands. And on a little side note I have also used a product called Preseed, which is a sperm friendly lube that aids the little swimmers in the process of getting thru the cervix. Any other products used such as KY interfere with the ph & mobility of sperm killing off a lot of them. Also if you can learn how to monitor your cervical mucus that is a GREAT predictor of ovulation.



I would also suggest getting all of your hormones checked by your doctor just to know if your going to need any help or if you are premenopausal.



I know I'm not 39, but we had some bumps in the road of baby making too. I hope I was at least a little helpful.



Good Luck!!

Leslie - posted on 02/25/2010

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I got pregnant at 39 and conceived my first son at 40. He is currently 4 mos. old now and is perfect! I am so happy that I get to stay at home with him. I had a difficult time getting pregnant and then I found out I had endometriosis. My doctor did a laparoscopy on me and I got pregnant the next month. Life has never been so good!!!

Tammy - posted on 02/25/2010

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It can be done. I know Elizabeth Edwards got pregnant at age 47, not sure if she had any "help" considering all the money she has though.

Jamie-Lee - posted on 02/25/2010

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Hi,
My mum had me when she was 24 (in 1990) my brother when she was 26 (1993) and my sister when she was 38 (2005). My sister is now 5 and just started school!!

It can be done!! so good luck with it all!!!

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Michelle - posted on 02/25/2010

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Hey Charlotte!! I had Anthony when I was 36. He is now 14 months. We where very lucky as we had no problems getting pregnant. However we would like to have at least 1 or two more and we will be in the same boat as you!! How long have you been trying?? At least give yourself 6-8 months & try not to stress yourself over it. Eat healthy & exercise are also important!! Please keep me informed about how you go. As I said I hope to start trying for number 2 end of 2010. I will then be 38!! Hope this helps!!

User - posted on 02/25/2010

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I had my 3 youngest when I was 35, 37 and 39, great pregnancies, worked up to the last couple of weeks with them. The medical institution will try to have you do a lot of extra tests as you will be classified "high risk". I refused the amnio because there are more risks than benefits to that exam. I did have the fetal heart sonography done as babies who have Down's almost always have heart defects that can be seen on ultrasound, so that I would know what I was in for not because I intended to terminate. My 3 little ones are now 9, 7 and 6 and life is a ball :-) All the best to you.

Amanda - posted on 02/25/2010

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I had one child at age 21 and the 2nd at age 34!!! Thirteen years inbetween. It's not without challenges but we all make it work. I was lucky to get pregnant easily at age 34 as I know it's not easy for a lot of couples. Best of luck to you!

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