Pregnancy with a toddler

Kelly - posted on 03/26/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Do any of you expecting moms with toddlers worry about the transition period when bringing home a new baby?

I want to be emotionally available for my toddler and the new baby.

Due August 27/2015 :)

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Jackalope - posted on 03/27/2015

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I did the same thing Chana did (my oldest DD was in the room when her sister was born, and both my daughters were in the room when my DS was born. That's what happens when you don't have any friends nearby [we're a military family]). My daughters would change their dolls when I changed the baby, feed their dolls when I fed my son, ect...

Chana - posted on 03/27/2015

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My daughters are almost 19 months apart and when I was expecting number 2 we included my oldest in everything we could for the baby. We let her help pick out clothes, the car seat and even bottles and pacifiers. We also took her to a few doctor's appointments when we knew I wasn't get an exam so that she could hear the heartbeat. We even took her when I went for the ultra sound, she didn't stay for the whole thing but she did get to see the baby. My oldest loved feeling the baby kick! Also a baby doll for the toddler to have when you bring the baby home is a good idea.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/27/2015

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I had my son watch the movie "Look who's talkin' too", right about the time that my tummy started showing, told him he got to be a big brother, just like the little boy in the film. He was ecstatic! He was 3 when brother was born. Was the BEST big brother ever.

I let him know that since he was a 'big boy', I wouldn't be able be totally his momma any more, but that I would really need his help as a big brother, and that seemed to help with the jealousy thing.

Kelly - posted on 03/27/2015

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That is exactly how I feel Sarah! I am afraid that I may struggle to give the new baby as much love as my toddler, as we have developed such a huge connection. On the other hand, I also fear that my toddler may become jealous of the time I spend with the new baby as I will be breast feeding; time will be limited in the early weeks post pregnancy.

I have heard that once you see your new baby everything changes. The love can be equally shared.

Thanks for sharing Sarah!

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Kelly - posted on 03/27/2015

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Thanks Michelle!

That is a great idea to get my daughter more involved with my pregnancy. I think it will prepare her more for what is to come and to get her excited about it. I know my toddler really likes to have jobs so helping out with he new baby might not be so bad!

The gift from baby to toddler is also such a great idea! Thank you for sharing!

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Michelle - posted on 03/27/2015

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You aren't the only person to have a toddler and a newborn. I had 2 years between my first 2 and you manage to cope.
I did involve my oldest with all of the pregnancy and we also bought him a small gift from his baby brother when he came to see me after he was born. They are now 13 & 11 and still the best of friends.
We also found out what we were having 2nd time round and named him early so our oldest would say goodnight to him everynight. He was a part of the family before he even arrived.

Sarah - posted on 03/27/2015

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.I definitely felt this way when I was pregnant with my second. i felt like I wasn't even sure if i could love Baby 2 as much as my first and that even as if baby 2 was an outsider who would be disturbing the harmony me and #1 had worked so hard to create.
And then i had him & I realized that although its tough and sometimes my oldest would get frustrated that I was spending too much time with baby it all works out. #1 get special time during naps, etc plus gets positive reinforcement for being a big sibling and baby 2 doesn't know any better lol
now I have 3 and its the same juggling act. You get better at it as you go but, I knew with #3 that I would and could figure it out and that there's always enough love to go around so long as you make a conscious effort to make time for each child individually

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