Marie - posted on 09/19/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )
My 20yo daughter is 8 months pregnant. Her bf has been confused and treating her terribly. My daughter loves him and is doing everything she can you keep him in her life. It's basically a one sided relationship. He tell her repeatedly that he wants a life with her and the baby,but actions show something different. My husband and I have been very involved in their relationship because the beginning of the pregnancy was absolute hell with him. Then he came around and we grew to care for him. About 4wks ago he started to act differently and ignored our daughter. Parties all the time hangs out with girls says he has no money for her or the baby yet goes out to clubs and bars. Anyways, he's blaming our involvement on some of his behaviour. So apparently according to him and his mother we need to stsy out of it. How is this possible when she lives in my house and I see her emotional turmoil. She's continuing to loose weight cries all the time. It's killing me that I'm just suppose to sit back and see this guy destroy my daughter and her baby. I want to shake him I want to tell at him I want to talk to him but I'm not allowed to!!!! If I continue to get involved I will lose her and my grand daughter. My husband wants to confront him and tell him he needs to be a man and figure out what he wants. We don't know what to do his parents are no help his friends are awful. They put pressure on him to dump her. Want to talk to him so badly we were so close and now he's just a stranger that won't even cone to our house to see her. I'm in so much pain and this relationship is destroying my marriage and our entire family. He says it's non of my business and I'm controlling and obsessed with their relationship. Is it wrong for me to feel so distraught? I don't think so, I'm so concerned for the wellbeing of this baby. I font even know how this pregnancy is still going strong with all the heartache and stress he puts on her. Please HELP!!