Pregnant again after recent miscarriage

Sarah - posted on 06/04/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )

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I miscarried at 7 weeks December21,2009. I recently found out I was pregnant again and am now 7 weeks. I am so worried I will miscarry again I am afraid of every cramp and slight ache that I run to the bathroom after every twinge? What are my chances of Miscarrying again to maybe ease my worries

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Kristine - posted on 02/26/2013

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hey every1 i had a miscarriage about 7 months ago i was 4 months prego (very devistating) but now i just recently found out i was prego again.. im so scared i would hate to lose this baby to can anyy body shed some light. i want to be exiceted but....

Kelly Jones - posted on 08/22/2012

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Hi Moms! In May of this year (2012) my husband and I found out we were expecting, 4 weeks 3 days to be exact. Although the timing wasn't great we were beyond excited! At our first ultrasound at 6 weeks things looked great, we saw out babies heart beating very strong. At 7 weeks the morning sickness hit me and it was awful. I was hospitalized for 3 days due to dehydration. Afterwards the morning sickness seemed to decrease slowly. At 11 weeks my stepdaughter and I went to my prenatal check up and heard the babies heart beat. It was strong at beating at 177 :) We were beyond excited. We heard it twice. Last week (August 13th 2012 ) I went alone expecting to hear our little ones heartbeat and schedule our 20 week ultrasound. I was 16 weeks at this point. My weight gain wasn't so good. In 16 weeks I had only managed to gain 5 pounds but Dr didn't seem to be concerned. When finally in a room they checked my blood pressure and it was great. BUT they tried for 30 mins to find our babies heartbeat using a doppler and couldn't. I then had a regular and transvaginal ultrasound and I was then told our baby had no heartbeat and hadn't since week 12.Baby was measuring 12 weeks 3 days. For 4 weeks my body held onto a pregnancy that had already ended. Four days later I went in to have a D & C. I was in a good amount of pain the day of but after 3 days it seemed to get better...the physical pain that is. The mental pain wwlas unbearable. It hurts so bad. I'm 4 days postoperative and my tummy is sore to the touch and mild cramping but no bleeding. My husband and I were instructed to not have sex for two weeks and not to try to conceive for 2 months. Well things got a little hot & heavy last night and we had sex. I know, that sounds horrible but physically and mentally my body longed for our intamacy. Has anyone been in my shoes and had sex too soon after miscarriage and d &c if so did you fall pregnant or suffer from an infection? Thanks so much!

Tabitha - posted on 06/11/2009

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I miscarried between our first and second child. I got pregnant about 3 months after the miscarriage and our daughter is perfectly fine! I know what you mean about worrying. I worried about everything! It will get a little easier as your pregnancy progresses!! Good Luck!!!

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Oh, one more thing. You miscarried in December so your body has had time to recover from that. A lot of repeat miscarriages occur if the mother gets pregnant quickly after the first miscarriage and her body hasn't fully recovered and not able to fully focus on the new baby. You should be fine. :)

Rebecca - posted on 06/07/2009

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I don't think you can ever just switch off the worry. I miscarried my first pregnancy, and then got pregnant again 3 months later. I stressed myself so badly that I had a migraine the night before my first ultra-sound because I was so scared. (My migraines are rare but awful, they mimic having a stroke) once I'd dodged that bullet I felt much better, but within a week or two I was scared again and then reassured by the 12 week ultrasound, and again and again all the way through the pregnancy - all the way through until I heard my baby cry and held him in my arms. I guess I didn't believe he'd be ok until I could see him for myself. Being my first pregnancy I was terrified I'd never have a baby, but the doc reassured me that one miscarriage doesn't make your chances for miscarriage in the subsequent pregnancy any higher. Try to stay positive as much as possible your chances are excellent.

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Kelly Jones - posted on 08/22/2012

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Hi Moms! In May of this year (2012) my husband and I found out we were expecting, 4 weeks 3 days to be exact. Although the timing wasn't great we were beyond excited! At our first ultrasound at 6 weeks things looked great, we saw out babies heart beating very strong. At 7 weeks the morning sickness hit me and it was awful. I was hospitalized for 3 days due to dehydration. Afterwards the morning sickness seemed to decrease slowly. At 11 weeks my stepdaughter and I went to my prenatal check up and heard the babies heart beat. It was strong at beating at 177 :) We were beyond excited. We heard it twice. Last week (August 13th 2012 ) I went alone expecting to hear our little ones heartbeat and schedule our 20 week ultrasound. I was 16 weeks at this point. My weight gain wasn't so good. In 16 weeks I had only managed to gain 5 pounds but Dr didn't seem to be concerned. When finally in a room they checked my blood pressure and it was great. BUT they tried for 30 mins to find our babies heartbeat using a doppler and couldn't. I then had a regular and transvaginal ultrasound and I was then told our baby had no heartbeat and hadn't since week 12.Baby was measuring 12 weeks 3 days. For 4 weeks my body held onto a pregnancy that had already ended. Four days later I went in to have a D & C. I was in a good amount of pain the day of but after 3 days it seemed to get better...the physical pain that is. The mental pain wwlas unbearable. It hurts so bad. I'm 4 days postoperative and my tummy is sore to the touch and mild cramping but no bleeding. My husband and I were instructed to not have sex for two weeks and not to try to conceive for 2 months. Well things got a little hot & heavy last night and we had sex. I know, that sounds horrible but physically and mentally my body longed for our intamacy. Has anyone been in my shoes and had sex too soon after miscarriage and d &c if so did you fall pregnant or suffer from an infection? Thanks so much!

User - posted on 06/08/2009

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I am very sorry for your loss. I could have miscarried my 2nd child without actually even knowing. I was spotting for a few weeks I told by obgyn, and shed did blood work. My pogesterone level was very low and it could have caused me to miscarry. I was put on medication and she will be 6 years old in a few months. I hope everything works out for you.

Lisa - posted on 06/08/2009

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Alot of women suffer a miscarriage at some point, that doesn't mean it will happen again. If you already had 3 children without problems don't let it cause undue stress. Congratulations and good luck. Enjoy your pregnancy!!!

Elizabeth - posted on 06/08/2009

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hi i had a miscarriage almost two years ago, and when i fall preganant again i worried and worried, but thee isnt anything u can do to stop it happing if its going to happen, i now have a healthy 7 week old, tell ur midwife or doctor how your feeling, i did and they wee great, i went for a extra scan, to check everything was ok, i no its hard but try to enjoy it, the doctor told me its a one in four chance of misscaiage. i hope all goes well for you, but please ty not to worry, take thing easy x

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I'm sorry about your loss :-( I suffered 3 confirmed, and 5 suspected losses. My problem turned out to be a severe progestone deficency. If at all possible, please make an appointment ASAP to have your hormone levels checked with simple bloodwork. If your hormone levels are too low to support pregnancy, your body will naturally miscarry. If low levels are caught early on, you might require medication to save the pregnancy. Knowing that as high as 30% of all pregnancies end in the 1st trimester is a startling statistic, but many might be able to be saved with early interventions. Good luck to you!

Teri - posted on 06/08/2009

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I had 4 miscarrages before my first child and again between number 2 and 3. They are devestating. Unfortunatly you don't know if you will or will not. I did however find a good high risk doctor who explained alot and fave some tips such as raspberry (natural and artificial flavor) can contribute to miscarrying if your already prone to it. I stayed away from this flavor all together. Just take it easy for at least the first 3 to 4 months. Visit your doctor often and discuss all the feelings and you will be ok :0) Try not to do too much activity with your other kids that involves you lifting or reaching.

Reinette - posted on 06/08/2009

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Hi, I do not know the answer to your question, but I want to tell you that I understand how you feel and I think in a way it is normal. I had a tube pregnancy in 2003 @ 7 weeks, and to this day I still wonder about that child. Every time I get a pain somewhere I cannot help but wonder if I might be pregnant again and if there might be a problem. When I found out that I was pregnant with my twins, I was out of control. I went to the hospital three times a day so that they could make sure that the baby was in my womb. Finally, one night at 7o'clock the doctor suggested that I go and see my gynaecologist, he even wanted to call him himself. I guess I was driving the poor man insane ! That was when I discovered that I was pregnant with the twins.



Good luck with this pregnancy, and have faith. Everything will work out for the best.

Lesa - posted on 06/07/2009

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You can request a trans-vaginal ulltrasound at 9 weeks. The heartbeat can usually be detected then. Usually if you have a heartbeat, your chances of miscarriage have greatly decreased. Most people don't realize, when you say you miscarried at 7 weeks, you really probably miscarried at 4 or 5 weeks but it took your body until 7 weeks to shed. I have 4 kids but have also lost 3 pregnancies. I lost twins at 17 weeks and then 2 singletons at about 7-8 weeks also. It never gets easier, the worry never goes away, but you learn how to cope with it. The best solution is to find a great Dr that you trust.

Brooke - posted on 06/07/2009

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I know it's easier said then done but stressing over this will do more harm... I know how you feel, I had a missed miscarriage march 08 and then 6 weeks later I was pregnant again... I had my baby girl in Jan this yr.. It's hard not to worry, I spent my whole 42 weeks worrying, but try to remember that it happened for a reason, it is not your fault. 1 in 7 women have a miscarriage and it is really hard to say what the chances of that are happening again.

Good luck though :-)

Gillian - posted on 06/07/2009

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Hi i miscarried my second baby at 18weeks which was horrific, i thought id never be albe to get over it but i got pregnant after two months and i like you worried over every pain but my midwife said it was all good news as it ment everthing was working?? i didnt feel right until i got over 20 weeks were i relaxed, i have since had two beautiful babies with no probs

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Sorry to hear about your miscarriage but congratulations on your pregnancy. We lost one too. My DH and I were talking just last night that if we hadn't lost her, we would be holding our sweet little one now. But, while she couldn't be replaced, the pain of losing her is eased by the excitement for this new little one I am pregnant with now.

I understand the fears and concerns for this pregnancy. It is only natural. Miscarriages are quite common but the majority are not because of a health issue on the mother's part (especially considering the fact you have carried 3 previous babies to full term).

I wouldn't worry. Granted, a bit of fear after miscarriage is understandable. Chances are that you will have another healthy bundle of joy. Congratulations!

Sarah - posted on 06/07/2009

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Thank you all for all of your helpful advise. I am definitely less nervous now. And this, if you count my miscarriage would be my 5th pregnancy. I have 3 gorgeous boys ages 9,8 and 3

Lacey - posted on 06/04/2009

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I got pregnant may of last year and miscarried at about 8 weeks or so. I found out I was pregnant again probably like a month later. I had mixed feelings, it didn't seem real because I was still sad about the previous pregnancy. But it was a very good pregnancy! even though I was scared nothing really bad happened and I had a healthy little boy! So just try to stay stress free (I know that's hard) and just take your vitamins and take it easy. just be optimistic! :]

April - posted on 06/04/2009

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And the twinges can be a good sign. Your muscles are preparing to allow your uterus to start stretching. You might feel those all the way through to what they call "Braxton Hicks" contractions at the end. Some women feel them at 6 weeks all the way through. Cramping all the way around to your back however is a sign of overduing it.

April - posted on 06/04/2009

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Within the first 12 weeks it's so spontaneous, it's impossible to predict unless you have a health risk. Your baby deserves the very best, and that starts right now. Your emotions carry a HUGE part in the health and outcome of how you carry a pregnancy, but of course there are other things that affect it as well. But start now with the best of intentions for that child, have faith that your body knows what to do, and try to connect.



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