Pregnant and alone

Esmeralda - posted on 05/15/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )




So I am almost 4 weeks pregnant. I have been with my boyfriend 6 years. We got in a fight in March and he decided to move out. Well, he has been coming and stay the night. We have sex alot and we normally use the pull out method. But for some reason the past couple of weeks he didn't pull out . I took 2 plan B pills, but they did not work. Now I'm pregnant and we are in the biggest fight of our life! He got mad because I decided to put him on child support for our other daughter. And I don't know how to tell him about the pregnancy. He told me he was in a relationship with someone and to stay out of his life. It's been 2 months and I find it so hard to believe when he was just here this past weekend. And if it is true, why would he sleep with me and tell me he wants me back. Then now he is dating someone. What do I do ?? Do I tell him or just leave him alone..πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”


Jodi - posted on 05/16/2015




What the hell are you doing having unprotected sex with him if your relationship is going down the toilet? Do NOT blame him for not pulling out, because the pull out method is not birth control. You are both acting like a couple of immature sex-crazed kids. Grow up and act like a couple of adults. Adults do not split up with each other and then continue to have unprotected sex, risking bringing a child into such a screwed up relationship. And to make things worse, there is already a child involved in this toxic situation. STOP letting him stay over and have sex with you!! He is using you!! Put him on child support for your other child. Speak to a lawyer so you can file to establish custody and visitation for your other child (and you will eventually have to do the same for the child you are carrying if you plan to keep it) and move forward. He clearly is not interested in an actual relationship with you.

If you want to get back together with him and fix the relationship, then the two of you need some serious relationship counselling.


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Raye - posted on 05/18/2015




I agree with the other ladies. You have made some bad decisions, and he has been using you. You should stop any communication with him unless it's about the children. Take him to court. Make sure you have custody, visitation and child support all worked out for the first child. Then, once the second one is born, do the same for the new baby.

Michelle - posted on 05/16/2015




You do realize that the pull out method isn't reliable as well. If you didn't want to fall pregnant you should have used a condom or not had sex. He has another girlfriend and he is still coming to you for his booty call, you need to respect yourself more and refuse him.

In regards to telling him about his child, tell him that he will be a Father again and you will see him in court. Don't allow him over for booty call any more, cut him out of your life. He can see his children but there is no need for him to be sleeping with you.

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