Pregnant at 15

Mallory - posted on 03/20/2016 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Me and my boyfriend, Chris, have been dating since my freshman year. I am a sophomore now currently 15 years old. My boyfriend is 18 as of March 16. But, according to the doctors, I'm pregnant. It happened in February around valentines day "stuff" did happen but he promised it was protected. Yet, apparently not. The baby is due in November, I still haven't told my parents yet and nothing is noticeable. Chris has taken me to the hospital to get ultra sounds and the baby seems healthy but I'm still very scared and I don't know what to do. Any advice?

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Sarah - posted on 03/21/2016

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Back up the truck....you conceived on Valentine's Day, and you thought you were protected? It is March 21st, that is five weeks gestation. No way have you, figured out you were pregnant, been to the hospital, had "ultrasounds" and were told you have a healthy fetus. You can't get medical testing at 15 without your parents consent, and someone has to pay for it. Something does not add up.

Sarah - posted on 03/21/2016

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Why are you getting ultrasounds so early in the pregnancy? Also you need insurance to be seen in the hospital.....so how are you being seen without insurance?

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Mallory - posted on 03/26/2016

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Ok, one: Chris was 17 when we conceived so we were both minors. Two: when I went to the doctor Chris payed for it. Since he was 18 (My appointment was the 18th) it was fine. Three: My parents did know we were dating. Four: I am KEEPING the child no matter what, my ignorance isn't their fault. Five: I have consulted with my parents as of March 25th. Six: I am definitely going to keep going to school. Seven: Chris decided not to go to college until I finish highschool and help look after the child.

Dove - posted on 03/21/2016

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I would like to point out for everyone mentioning the legalities of the situation that this baby was conceived prior to the boyfriend turning 18. He's only been 18 for 5 days now. Not sure how it impacts things since he is 18 NOW... but technically they were both minors when conception happened.

Dove - posted on 03/21/2016

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Well... you've learned a very valuable lesson... NEVER trust the guy that you are protected... and don't have sex unless you want to be pregnant.

Talk to your parents.... you are going to NEED their help and support. They may be very angry at first. Be prepared for yelling, crying, disappointment... But hopefully once they calm down they will sit down w/ you and discuss your plans for yourself and this child and let you know how they will support and help you.

Unless it was ran through your insurance (in which case your parents will see it and pay the remainder of the bill)... you would have had to pay up front for an ultrasound and those are NOT cheap. How did that all happen?

Raye - posted on 03/21/2016

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You and your BF have been very irresponsible. Since he is 18, and there is a 3 year age difference between you, your relationship may be illegal depending on the laws where you live. He could be sent to jail. Since you engaged in adult behaviors by having sex, now you have to start making adult decisions. As Michelle asked... are you going to keep the baby? If not, would you choose abortion or put the baby up for adoption? If you do keep it, are you going to try to finish school? Who will care for the child while you're either at school or work? Is the father going to stay involved? How are the medical bills getting paid? How are you going to feel when you lose friends because they're out partying, enjoying their freedom, and you're stuck home with a baby?

I guess my advice is to really think about this and try to make the best decision that you can live with. Talk to your parents. Make better decisions.

Michelle - posted on 03/20/2016

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You need to tell your parents ASAP. You also need to make a decision about the baby, are you going to keep it? If so, who will be looking after it? Are you going to finish school?
Your boyfriend also has to keep in mind that he had sex with a minor and he can have charges against him.
Do your parents even know you have been seeing an 18yo?

Darlene - posted on 03/20/2016

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Well first of all he should have been extra carefully due to age if he truly cared knowing u were still in school he should have been more man bout DAT part. And the pregnant part be honest is the best thing u can get off heart and mine talk to her what done happen happened so be a woman bout it and tell her truth will always set u free always its hurts but its nothing holding u inside

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