Pregnant & Depressed

Lindsey - posted on 09/12/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I just recently found yesterday I'm pregnant, and it wasn't planned. I am feeling very depressed ... I'm very upset with myself for not being more responsible for my birth control. I am 24 yrs old, & I've been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years now. We have an apartment together, we both work full time jobs & go to school. I guess I'm really just scared mostly, and I worry that everything I have been working hard for is going to change and Im scared my boyfriend will blame me. My boyfriend is just really spooked, and this makes it even worse when I just want to be consoled. I'm trying so hard to snap out of the funk, but the only relief I get is when I sleep. My stomach is permanatly in knots & I have no appetite. Both of us come from good supportive families, & although this might not be the "best" path I keep trying to remind myself everything happens for a reason. I just hope & pray this feeling goes away. Also, I have this fear that there will be something wronge with my baby?? It just adds to my anxiety. Any advice would be appreciated ...


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Teressa - posted on 09/12/2012




That is a normal feeling, I found out Monday that I m pregnant and this will be my 5th. My family right now is not very supportive cause my husband and I were having a lot of problems so we have decided to wait before we even tell them. And before getting pregnant I kept getting the little hints from them that I should not get pregnant. Am I nervous that I could miscarry or something something can go wrong. But that is just my hormones making me anxious, and the same could be said for you, that its just. This is a new chapter is your life and you need to know that no matter what, you have people there for you and to support you. Your boyfriend should also understand that this is just as scary for you as it is for him. If you two work together, you should be able to work through this. Hope you feel better.

Katherine - posted on 09/12/2012




It's normal to be scared. I wasn't married when I got pregnant with my first and it too was an "accident." I wouldn't change it for the world though! Having my daughter was the best thing that ever happened to me. If your boyfriend blames you then he's a jerk. It takes 2. And yes, everything DOES happen for a reason. You will be fine and you will still be able to work and finish school, you'll just need a little help. If I can do it with 2 kids so can you!

I also thought something might be wrong with my baby because I had been drinking before I knew. She turned out wonderfully. Don't worry. Just go to the doctor and start getting your prenatal care :)

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