Lisa - posted on 12/04/2012 ( no moms have responded yet )
Ok this is my first time ever writing in a forum but in this situation I think I really need some advice from some experienced folks.
To give a short background I was briefly dating this guy, we were just getting to know each other but things got intense really quick, in fact we were both saying things are going too quickly. So one day out of the blue he called me to tell me he needs a bit of space, things are going so fast he needs some time to think; at the time I also agreed because I have alot of things going on as well and I am on the brink of finishing my 2nd degree and I needed to focus so we parted ways on a mutual note.
A couple weeks later I missed my period and found out I was pregnant, immediately I told him and he responded telling me he will support whatever decision I make since I was confused of what to do at the time. I am 30 years old and I am quite busy with my studies, this will also be my first child but aside from that I decided to keep the baby and I am pregnant at this time. Even though motherhood will change my life forever I am looking forward to it.
After I told him I plan to keep the baby , a couple weeks later he told me that when him and I met him and his ex-girlfriend had just broken up but then soon atfer she came back around, that is the time he told me he needed space and since then they have been working things out but he still plans to be there for his child. Now of course this hurt me and the fact that he hid this from me also hurt.
Since I have been pregnant he does check in weekly and we have a good relationship but in the back of my head since I always wanted my child to be raised in a two-parent household I would love him and I to try to work things out but his ex is still in his life.
I should also add that one night he came by to check in on me and things got intimate between us, I guess at that time him and her had fell out again since they seem to be quite off and on.
This is the first time I have ever been in such a situation, I know I should just focus on my pregnancy but I am drawn to him especially now that I am pregnant with his child and I would love things to work out, I don't understand how he can see a relationship with his ex working in this situation, it is all so confusing and I do not know what to do or how to handle it.
I should also add this is also his first child, he is 30 as well and he is very excited about it.
I am so sorry for this lengthy post but I do hope someone replies because I really need some straight up advice on how to handle this situation.
Thanks for reading