Pregnant, had a miscarriage last year, extremely anxious now

Lin - posted on 05/19/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I got the positive test result two days ago and after a short exciting I started to feel anxious and worried and I can not relax and get this out of my mind now. I had a miscarriage last year. Baby died at 6 weeks but I did not have a miscarry and did not know until I saw the doctor at 10 weeks. Had d&c and a miserable time. I felt I lost my confidence and can not trust myself. Everyday is so long for me now...

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Geralyn - posted on 05/19/2014

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I had the exact same experience with my first pregnacy. The good news for this pregnancy is that since you've had a miscarriage, the doctor can check you more closely as this one progresses. That should give you peace of mind. I know this sounds trite, but let go and let God. I spent a lot of time praying with my pregnacy and it helped to realize that I was not in control in regards to a miscarriage. Just hope and pray and let the rest go, if possible.

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Lin - posted on 05/21/2014

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Wow!! A boy and a girl-that's the best!!! So happy for you:)

Thanks so much! I told my doctor about the brown spotting and she got me tested for beta hcg-it's somehow low but it doubling every 48 hours seems more important so I'll pray for my hcg level to double and the pregnancy can progress.
I so agree that sometimes I hate to hear my husband say 'if it's gone then it's God's will...' I know it's 100% true but as a human-being, I hope he can understand that I'm weak... I'd rather he says something else such as 'I understand your pain and anxiety. You have every reason to feel that way and I feel the same way...' or 'It's gonna be OK and I believe the baby's healthy!'
Anyway, thanks so much for the prayer and understanding-I'll pray for your kids for sure! I know He has the plan and I can control nothing and I really want to be positive. I'll try my best!

Geralyn - posted on 05/20/2014

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Be sure to tell you doctor about the spotting. You might be low on the hormones side and they can put you on medication or injections for it. I was thinking about this some more last night. Another trite phrase I hated hearing was, "if it's meant to be, it will be." I guess what people are trying to say is that it really is beyond your control. My miscarriage was devastating to me and I found little support from others. I got, "it happens all the time with first pregnancies." Or, "I know so and so who has had 4 miscarriages." None of those things helped me. The only thing that gave some comfort was thinking/believing that maybe there was something wrong with the baby and God knew what he was doing in the miscarriage. I've added you to my prayer list. Our journey took five years before our first one came along, but eventually, God gave me exactly what I always wanted: a girl first and then a boy. He had His own plan in mind for us--adopted children--and I wouldn't trade them for anything. :-)

Lin - posted on 05/20/2014

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Thanks Geralyn! It's not titre but actually really helpful!
I've been praying these days and I believe God just comfort me himself yesterday. I actually still don't know what's gonna happen and I'm still a little worried cause I'm having some brown spotting these two days but I believe He made me strong enough and He blessed me so much and He'll be with me all the time.
Thanks so much for your response and you will be in my prayer:)

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