Pregnant Teen

Laura - posted on 04/29/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 18year old daughter is pregnant and has moved back home. It's so hard because i just felt like i was finally getting my own life on track(back at school,new career,great partner,starting to travel) and i am afraid this will completely de-rail me. How do i love and support her even though I don't agree with her choice? How do I create boundaries for myself so that I can continue my life?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/29/2013

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Well have some faith in your daughter. Becoming a parent matures most people very quickly.

Laura - posted on 04/29/2013

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Thank you. I know it sounds like I am thinking about my life, but the reality is that although she has made an adult choice I don't think she has the adult ability to raise a child (she can barely take care of herself) and I am afraid I will be the one to have to pick up the pieces when the reality of parenthood sets in. It's just sad cause there is a right time for things and I feel like i can't be the grandmother I want or should be. But having said all that I am now moving from anger and denial into acceptance.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/29/2013

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Well, just remember this is her decision. Not yours. And that means it is her life and responsibility. Not yours. Of course be there for her, but she is the one that will be raising her child. Make that clear to her if you need to. I am all for grandparents being a huge part of my children's lives, but I do not expect them to raise my children. She is an adult. Find out what her plans are for the future. All that being said, don't be selfish either.

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