Pregnant with forth baby at 37
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Sarah - posted on 01/20/2015
That is sad that your husband can look at your 9 month old and then say I choose not to have this one so get rid of it. I am 39 and preg. with my 4th. As a parent you are going to feel tired, frustrated, and even old.....though sometimes parenting small children can keep you young as well. But also part of being a parent is pushing through all that for your kids and your family. I would maybe suggest some counseling for you and your husband. If this is still not something you feel you are able to do then I would encourage you to look into adoption as this child deserves to have a life as he/she did nothing wrong but come into your lives at an inconvenient time.
Deb - posted on 01/21/2015
I had my first child at 28 and my last at 42. My only regret was not having another (I have 4 total). Yes, I didn't think i would have the energy at 42, but, he has kept me young and he is the most amazing "old soul". He is 17 very, very bright and never once did I have to put him in the "thinking chair". Keep up with your vitamins and rest. Good luck Lyndy!
Jodi - posted on 01/20/2015
This is a choice you should make without him being an ass about it. I couldn't do it either. But that's me. However, I would tell hubby it was time for him to go and get some more permanent birth control (i.e. a vasectomy) if he can't handle the consequences of what happens sometimes when two people have sex.
Deb - posted on 01/20/2015
I'm all about a woman's right to choose, but oooh boy. Speaking only for myself, an abortion would not be an option. Years from now, you will always think back on the baby you gave up and feel bad about it...probably those feelings will fester and eventually become bitter toward your husband. I, personally, would never be able to make peace with something like this. Adoption is the way to go if you and your husband can't deal with another child. I was actually still nursing my first baby when I got pregnant with the second! If you keep this new baby, you'll have to encourage the first baby to accept him/her. That's another "situation"....but that's for later on!
Raye - posted on 01/20/2015
You and your husband will have to talk it out. Don't let him force you into doing anything you don't want to do. If you're set on having it, then sit him down and say you're having this baby, so now what can happen to make this work.
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